How are you, What is New in your Life?
By: Chibuike Anyoha MD
In our insensitive misjudgment, we put others down and slice them into little bits, all to demonstrate domination or that we know them more than they know themselves.
Do not let anybody belittle or misrepresent you. After all, even Nancy Pelosi did not let Trump belittle or mischaracterize her. "Mr. President," she said in an epic 2018 confrontation with Trump at the Whitehouse, "do not belittle the strength I bring to this meeting..."
Trump's attempt to belittle Pelosi is similar to how some of us try to belittle anybody we meet, as illustrated by this short story I want to share with you.
Chidi and Chibiko met by chance on a shady corner in the town market of Afor Ekengwu, Osina, where both men had gone early in the morning to make reservations for kegs of fresh palm wine. "My friend, I am so excited to see you after so many years," Chidi said to Chibiko.
For what seemed to have been an eternity, both men were locked in a handshake, shaking and adjusting their shoulders as men from Akokwa do, intentionally attracting the eyes of onlookers.
Once the initial emotionally charged greetings were over, Chibiko changed his tone and went off on his friend. "Naa men!," Chibiko exclaimed. "You are still the same dress-down short fellow that I knew all my life." Pointing in Chidi's direction, he continued, "Look at those grey hairs. They have invaded your head like poisonous mushrooms. You are the same guy who never cared for anybody in the world--not friends, not neighbors. One thing and only one thing interests you: reading stupid books about stupid things." Beaten down, Chidi was short of words to respond.
Chibiko's soul harbors what I call the Belittling and Mischaracterization Spirit (BMS), which is more active in some people than others. In souls where it runs uncontrollably, BMS gives people the idea that they know what another person is thinking, and what they would do in the future.
In the real world, people count their triumphs over others. So, as Nancy Pelosi did to Trump, do not let anybody belittle you and get away with it. Refute them. Correct them. And if all fails, walk away from them in protest.
If you have a restless Belittling and Mischaracterization Spirit, consider taming it a little. We do not need to put others down to elevate ourselves.
Ask people directly who they are, what they do, and how they feel. Making it up is wrong and painful.
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