A Pre-date Contract, Really?
How getting it in writing can lead to the altar
By: Steve Dubin
More than a mere trend, pre-date agreements have become more commonplace in recent years. While not legally binding documents, these agreements do put in writing the expectations people have of the other person going into the date, during the date and in the aftermath. Not surprisingly, laying your cards on the table and letting the person you’re dating know you’re serious has many beneficial results.
The Right One and Together Dating, one of the world’s largest brick-and-mortar dating services with more than 60 offices nationwide, doesn’t require its clients to sign a pre-date agreement. Yet you can count CEO Paul A. Falzone as a support of pre-date agreements.
Said Falzone, “Most people’s initial reaction to a pre-date contract is ‘what about romance?’ and ‘doesn’t a written agreement get in the way of chemistry?’. The truth is a pre-date contract acts like a checklist for yourself to make sure you’re in a good place to begin a relationship. If anything, it’s pretty healthy way to go about it.”
So what terms can you find in a pre-date contract? Some things to include:
• Punctuality – arriving on time and ending at a reasonable hour
• Attire – agree on type of attire prior to date (casual, business casual); bathing and other hygienic measures prior to date mandatory.
• Terms of discussion – agree to not talk about exes and the big three (sex, politics and religion); also no complaining about work, the weather, etc.
• Physical contact – keep it to a minimum; friendly pecks on the cheeks or abbreviated hugs are acceptable; spending the night, not so much.
• Alcoholic intake – with respect to the above bullet, stick to a one drink per hour maximum.
• Paying the bill – as equal partners in this first date, split the bill evenly.
• Honest post date feedback – agree to provide your date with an honest appraisal of the outing within a 24-to-48-hour time period.
“Most things in a pre-date agreement are fairly common sense. Yet there’s something about putting these things in writing that make you think about what it is you’re doing,” said Falzone. “That’s not a bad thing. In fact, once both people know the expectations and the ground rules, it makes it easier to enjoy the date and let the relationship begin or end.”
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