Valentines Day can help Marriages

LYDNEY, U.K. - Feb. 13, 2019 - PRLog -- Kerry and Ben who own The Marriage People live in the Forest of Dean with their three children and have never actually celebrated Valentine's Day. However they do believe that it can help marriages. Ben says "Me and Kerry both feel the same about Valentines Day, and so we tend to let it pass us by. Which is fine for us because we both expect and feel the same. However, problems often occur in marriages when partners have different values and different expectations of each other (and the big V day).

For example within most of the couples we've worked with, typically men would let Valentines Day be a normal day but women would prefer to mark the day somehow with a small gift or a special meal. And so we urge those who do not care for it, who are married to someone who does, make an effort this year for the sake of your marriage."

Ben Leppier, who's been a relationship coach for 7 years says that people need to learn and then respect one another's expectations around Valentine's Day. If our partner likes to make it an occasion then we should. Not only will this surprise - even delight - our partner, but it actually gives them the message that they are valued, understood and listened to.

Mr Leppier goes onto say "the biggest problem we see in people's marriages are communication; a lack of listening usually. When we don't truly listen to one another, and I mean by putting the phone down, stopping what we're doing and looking into our partners eyes, we are as good as ignoring them. And when we ignore them we're saying "you don't matter to me". This has to change. It's a habit that's spreading to other relationships, such as that with our children. So this Valentine's ask what your partner wants to do, and listen. This would be a great start in the right direction toward happier marriages".

Ben's wife and business partner Kerry has never been a fan of Valentines Day but appreciates it can be a special day to be romantic. She says "growing up I didn't see many romantic gestures in our home, I would always read a 'Point Horror' book over a romance and I was more interested in being in business than being in a marriage! However now that I am married, I do appreciate those romantic gestures from time to time and have seen the positive impact they've had on our relationship, especially now that we have kids!"

Ben & Kerry say they won't be celebrating Valentine's Day until one of them decides they want to. They say it's not about the day it's about listening to how your partner feels about the day, and marking it for them. Show them they are worth it.


To find out more about the marriage people, visit: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.uk/