Get My Ex Boyfriend To Call Me - Exactly How To Do It

March 21, 2014 - PRLog -- Getting your ex boyfriend to call you is no easy task, otherwise you wouldn't be here looking for advice, he would have done it by now. Hopefully you already know that no amount of force or coercion is going to get your ex boyfriend to call you either. You cannot make someone want to speak to you, you want him to pick up the phone out of choice, because he actually wants to hear your voice, not because he has been threatened into it.

That being said, it is also good to understand what way you can't behave if you are trying to get your ex boyfriend to call you. Resorting to childish and underhand tactics will never reflect well on you and you could actually end up putting him off contacting you for good. The last thing that you want to happen is that he avoids you completely.

Don't Use Manipulation And Guilt Tactics

Unfortunately a lot of girls in your position do what they do best - use emotions and guilt to get their ex boyfriends to call them. This is definitely NOT what you want to be doing. There have been numerous cases of girls turning on the water works to try and get what they want, leaving their ex boyfriends with no choice but to try and make them feel better. What good will this approach do though?

What is the point of having your ex boyfriend call you to check if you are ok when he doesn't want you back in the end? You are playing mind games with him and forcing him into something that he doesn't want. Not only this, he will resent you for it in the end and start seeing you negatively. If you use guilt to make him pick up the phone it will not get him back either. You are just painting yourself as needy, childish and quite irrational. He will not want to be with someone like that.

Another popular tactic that females use is to threaten their ex boyfriends with something far more sinister. They start to insinuate that they will harm themselves because the relationship is over and allude to the fact that their life is not worth living anymore. You may feel like this right now, but you don't want your ex boyfriend to know this. Telling him that you don't want to go on living might make him call you regularly to check that you are okay, but he isn't doing it because he wants you back, he is doing it out of fear and a sense of duty. Either way, this approach is a dead end that will ultimately make you look crazy. Please don't resort to these kinds of tactics.

Making Him Want To Call You

The best case scenario is that your ex boyfriend wants to call you regularly because they miss, not because they feel like you will harm yourself if they don't. How do you go about this though? Well you need to do the opposite of the above. You have to be independent, mature, busy and accept the breakup. That way you seem much more approachable. Your ex boyfriend is much more likely to call you if he knows that he won't find a teary and erratic voice on the other end of the line. He doesn't want to deal with that, it is much too awkward for him.

This means that your behaviour on Facebook and when you see him has to be positive. Don't scowl at him or let him know how much the split has affected you. The last thing that he wants to deal with is you throwing abuse at him. Let him know that you are getting on with your life by appearing normal, even happy. He will notice your positive attitude and feel more willing to reach out to you.

Another excellent tactic is being patient. I know that it may sound downright impossible at the moment, but biding your time can often garner great results. Instead of you constantly trying to get his attention, you should take a back seat and disappear for a while. You might worry that he will forget all about you, but nothing could be further from the truth.

This technique relies upon reverse psychology to make your ex boyfriend realise what you mean to him. You see, he will be expecting you to want his attention post break up, he expects you to call him or at least be regularly updating your Facebook wall. When you don't give him what he expects his interest will be dramatically piqued. If he fears that you are getting over him when he still has feelings for you, he will be much more likely to call you and ask how you are.

By appearing busy and content your ex boyfriend will want to reinsert himself back into your life. The fact that you have suddenly disappeared off Facebook and that your calls and texts have stopped will make his imagination go into overdrive. The best thing is about this approach is that you are actually doing very little apart from showing a little self restraint. It is that simple.

You now need to know more about contact with your ex boyfriend, what to say and how to maintain his interest. Your work doesn't stop here.

Your Next Steps - Do You Want Him Back?
Getting him to call you is the easy part, knowing how to encourage repeat contact and get him to want you again is a little more difficult. The link below will help you plan out exactly what to say to him to leave him wanting more.

http://beingdumped.net/contact-with-ex


Break Up Mistakes You Need To Avoid
Getting your ex boyfriend to ring you also depends upon your overall behaviour after the break up. If you are doing and saying the wrong things it will make him run for the hills. The link below outlines what you shouldn't be doing, please avoid these things at all costs!

http://beingdumped.net/break-up-mistakes


How To Win Back Your Ex
You will also need a step by step plan if you want to get your ex boyfriend back. It is largely about understanding the male psyche and how to use it to your advantage to make him attracted to you again. Click the link below to find out more.

http://beingdumped.net/win-your-ex-back