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MWA Celebrates Relationship Abuse Author and Educator, Latifah A. Hameen
As a writer, educator, speaker, 20-year relationship abuse survivor and founder of "Healthy Positive Choices" (HPC), Ms. Hameen was inspired to write on the subject of relationship abuse in order to help others.
By: Aishah Schwartz
(WASHINGTON, D.C.) Muslimah Writers Alliance (MWA), an internationally based collaboration of Muslim women writers and advocates working to counter negative and inaccurate perceptions of Islam and members of the Muslim community, celebrates four-time author and founding member, Latifah A. Hameen.
A speaker, author, educator and 20-year relationship abuse survivor from Irving, Texas, Latifah Hameen is also founder of Healthy Positive Choices (HPC), a newly formed agency organized as a preventive tool in educating teens and young adults on the growing problem of teen relationship abuse; a subject that hovers under the radar screen – not talked about much or identified because it's so subtle.
"Abuse comes in all kinds of forms, often disguised as love. There is so much pressure put on teens today to behave in certain ways and to accept relationship abuse as a normal part of life. HPC wants teens to become aware of the signs of relationship abuse, whereby understanding that abuse is not love, but destructive to the total being," stated Hameen. (blogtalkradio interview May 24, 2011: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/
"As a practicing Muslim, Islam has also influenced my writing as it was through the strength of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that I pursued the goal of educating and helping others who may have had similar experiences in abusive relationships,"
Hameen was inspired to address the issue of abuse in writing after attending a seminar that prompted her to take the steps necessary to confront the issue and its effect on her life in order to help others.
Her first book, "Suffering in Silence: Breaking the Cycle of Abuse" (2006), a self-help title geared toward teens and young adults ages 14-21, shares her experiences as a victim of relationship abuse and seeks to educate readers on its various cycles. (Purchase online at: http://www.amazon.com/
Hameen delved deeper into the subject matter of her first book in a blogtalkradio interview found online at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/
"Suffering in Healing Creating a New Cycle of Behavior" (2008), Hameen's second book, addresses the role victims of abuse play in its reoccurring cycles and how to be consistent in creating a healthy cycle of behavior in one's life. The author explained, "The healing process takes time. Victims must understand the part they play in the abuse. A person can only change his or herself. We must love who we are and respect who we are." (Purchase online at: http://www.amazon.com/
Her third publication, "The Awakening of Your Soul" (2008), is a collection of poetry that explores her emotions and reflections post triumph over closing the chapter of abuse in her life. (Purchase online at http://www.amazon.com/
Hameen's thought provoking writing identifies love, trust, mutual respect, supporting one another's endeavors and a willingness to compromise as signs of a healthy relationship.
Her fourth publication, "Teens/Young Adults How To-Not To Relationship Abuse Workbook" (2009), was written with a focus on helping teens become aware of the signs of relationship abuse. (Purchase online at: http://www.amazon.com/
In a May 18, 2011 blogtalk radio interview Hameen explained the five different types of abuse and how to recognize the red flags of an abusive relationship. (Full interview at: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/
The types of abuse are physical abuse, mental/emotional abuse, spiritual abuse, social abuse and financial abuse. Physical abuse is the most obvious and encompasses physical violence in the form of hitting, pushing and shaking, etc. Mental/emotional abuse involves name calling and humiliation as well as manipulation and ignoring someone as a means of inflicting mental or emotional harm. Spiritual abuse can take the form of using religion to control another or withholding religious freedoms from someone. Social abuse involves keeping someone isolated and separating them from friends and family and financial abuse is comprised of withholding money and/or accountability for finances.
The author also stated that jealousy and possessiveness are the two initial signs of abuse and that abuse can be a learned behavior that can be passed down through generations until someone breaks the cycle. Hameen highlighted three stages of abuse that complete an abusive cycle: (1) Tension building: acknowledging that something is wrong with the relationship;
Hameen hopes to educate, cultivate and empower teens and young adults in awareness of the signs of abuse so that if they ever encounter abuse they will have zero tolerance for it and will pass the knowledge onto others in order to eradicate abuse in all forms. Her publications have received overwhelmingly positive feedback from readers as well as compassion for all she personally endured as a victim of relationship abuse.
"It is important to know that although abuse is a terrible occurrence, it can be stopped and the cycle can be broken," Hameen explained.
The author contributes her success to God's continuous guidance in all of her endeavors.
Although Hameen's writing is geared primarily towards teens and young adults, her counsel and advice can be used by men and women of all ages and can be purchased at Amazon.com.
Janette Grant runs Mindworks Publishing and is in the process of completing her first work of fiction. She studied at Boston University in Massachusetts, majoring in print journalism. Her published works include one children's book, three anthology collections, a collection of poetry and numerous articles published online and in the Providence Journal Bulletin newspaper. She resides in Missouri City, Texas, with her son and husband.
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