45 Characteristics of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder of Abandonment (compare to Complex PTSD)
45 Characteristics of PTSD of Abandonment
- Sept. 30, 2022
-- PTSD of Abandonment
is the underlying traumatic source of Complex PTSD (C-PTSD).
- An intense fear of abandonment that interferes in the emotional tenure of relationships in adulthood.
- Difficulty forming primary relationships.
- Intrusive insecurity that interferes in your love life, social life and goal achievement.
- A tendency to repeatedly subject yourself to people or experiences that lead to another loss, another rejection, and another trauma.
- Shame – any feeling of rejection or failure can trigger deeply embedded feelings of hidden shame.
- Shame is mostly unconscious; you experience it indirectly by a depressed mood or low self-esteem.
- Difficulty with trust.
- Need for constant reassurance when you are trying to trust someone. Receiving a friendly text can have an instant tranquilizing effect.
- A tendency toward self-defeating behavior patterns that sabotage your love-life, goals, or career.
- Anxiety with authority figures. This could include anyone from your boss to someone you perceive as higher up in social ranking.
- Heightened memories of traumatic separations and other events.
- Conversely, partial or complete memory blocks of childhood traumas.
- An intrusive reawakening of emotional memories stemming from childhood losses – i.e. feelings of helplessness, vulnerability and dread – without being able to recall the original events.
- Low self-esteem, low sense of entitlement, performance anxiety.
- Negative self-comparison with people who have more confidence, more egotism, and more social power.
- Feelings of emotional detachment, i.e. feeling numb to current or past losses and disconnections.
- Conversely, difficulty letting go of an ex, difficulty letting go of feelings of rejection, longing, and regret.
- Difficulty letting go period (like a dog with a bone) over a conflict with another, a disappointment, etc.
- Difficulty getting past making a mistake or poor performance. Merciless self-criticism.
- Episodes of self-neglectful or self-destructive behavior.
- Difficulty withstanding (and overreacting to) the customary emotional ups and downs within intimate relationships.
- Reaching impasses – trouble working through the conflict with others.
- Extreme sensitivity to perceived rejections, exclusions or criticisms.
- Emotional pendulum swings between fear of engulfment and fear of abandonment: i.e. On one hand you feel 'the walls close in' if someone gets too close, and on the other, you feel insecure, love-starved – on a precipice of abandonment – when you become unsure of the person's love.
- Tendency to feel hopelessly hooked on a partner who is emotionally unavailable = abandoholism.
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