He Broke Up With Me - How Do I Get Him Back?

Sept. 22, 2013 - PRLog -- Saying that "he broke up with me" is not helping you right now. Instead of lamenting the demise of your relationship it is time to do something about it if you really want him back.

If you're walking the line between a recent breakup and the desire to get your relationship back, you're walking through a field full of landmines. There are mistakes to be made everywhere, and these mistakes could eliminate the possibility of getting back together for good. Learning to identify these mistakes is an important piece of the puzzle in the ultimate battle to reclaim a lost relationship and get things back on track positively.

Immediately following your breakup, you feel down in the dumps. While your emotions are valid and important, they're also a hindrance to keep things moving in a positive direction. Instead of succumbing to these emotions, allow your friends and family to support you, to cheer you up and to keep you moving in the right direction.

Just because your situation seems incredibly dire at the moment doesn't mean that it has to stay that way indefinitely. The relationship experts have weighed in, and they have good news. Over 90% of relationships can ultimately be salvaged if you go about things the right way and act in a manner that is appropriate to your overall goals.

If you want to win your ex-boyfriend back, you have to proceed with caution. You can't just throw rational thought out of the window, hope that the chips land where you want them to and move forward like nothing happened. There are a lot of mistakes to be made, and the last thing you want to do is ruin your opportunity before you ever realized that you had it. Recognizing these mistakes is the first step to avoiding them. If you've already made one or more of these mistakes, it's not too late to fix the damage, but you need to act fast if you hope to be successful in the end.

Don't Even Think About the Following Actions:

a) Losing Control of Your Anger:

If you're angry that your relationship ended, you're not alone. Breakups bring out the worst in people, and your feelings are entirely justified. Breakups are rarely fair or balanced, and it's often difficult to look past the stream of negativity to see the light at the end of the tunnel. While you have every right to feel the way you feel, demonstrating those negative feelings are not going to get you very far. Your ex is going to think that breaking up with you was the best decision he could have made, and he's going to give you an extremely wide berth.

b) Becoming an Emotional Wreck:

While tears may get your ex-boyfriend's attention, he's not going to want to deal with them endlessly, and he's likely to remain unconvinced to give you a second thought if you dissolve into emotional despair every time the two of you see each other. Guys respect independence and confidence, and those are the tools that you need to be employing if you want him to start seeing you differently than he did when he first broke up with you.

c) Lowering Your Standards and Begging:

Maintaining your ex-boyfriend's respect is an important factor in winning him back and getting your relationship back together. If you grovel at his feet, that residual respect is going to start to sink fast until it disappears completely - and once it's gone, it's incredibly hard to regain that lost ground. You can't go into your breakup planning to beg for another chance and hope for it to be successful. You have to make the right moves, and begging for a second chance simply isn't one of them.

d) Actively Seeking to Make Him Jealous:

Jealousy is all-too-common after a breakup. If you think that you can manipulate your ex-boyfriend through jealousy, you're on the brink of making a huge mistake, and if you cross that ledge it's almost impossible to crawl your way back. Overt jealousy is never the answer to winning back an ex-boyfriend's heart, but subtle techniques can have a noticeable impact on your future chances if you know how to employ them correctly.

It's not hard to get up to the minute updates on your ex-boyfriend's whereabouts after your relationship ends. All that you need is a computer or a smart phone. Just because it's easy to keep tabs on him after the breakup doesn't mean that you should. You can't go following him around on the internet via Facebook - or in person. In fact, one of the only proven methods to winning back an ex is to keep your distance and develop some space between you. Stay away from Facebook for a short while. Don't succumb to every urge to update your status every five minutes. Give him a break - and give yourself one too.

Your Next Steps - Do You Want Him Back?

If you are determined to get him back then you will have to make him want you first. This is not as difficult as it may first appear. To learn exactly how to make him want you again you will have to do a few things now. Learn what they are by clicking the link below.

http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2012/07/how-to-make-your-ex-boyfriend-want-you-back

Get Him Back Using The No Contact Rule

If you haven't already heard of the no contact rule then you are missing out on a very powerful strategy. The link below will explain how effective it is in getting your ex boyfriend to chase you and miss you.

http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2012/07/use-the-no-contact-rule-to-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back

Are You Making These Mistakes With Your Ex Boyfriend?

The truth is that you are probably making a load of mistakes and you are not even aware of it. The way your behaviour looks to you and to him are very different. This is why you need to know what you are doing and why it can push him away. The link below will show you what you have been doing wrong up until now.

http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2012/07/mistakes-girls-make-after-the-break-up