What Happens After You Say I Do?

Sept. 8, 2010 - PRLog -- So we celebrate; sometimes even after the bride and groom has departed. We rejoice in the beginning of their new life together, hoping they will live happily ever after. But is that even possible?

The music fades and everyone leans forward to hear this beautiful couple’s words of promise to each other. Standing before God, family members, and friends, they declare their love and commitment to one another. Fast forward 30 years and this now elderly couple enters the restaurant. They sit down to eat. The only conversation is the one held with the waiter. Living in a marital wasteland, they never exchange eye contact, never hold hands. Married for thirty plus years, they find themselves with an empty nest and no relationship because over the years it’s become easier to focus on the aggravations, annoyances, and behaviors that frustrate and anger them in their marriage. They’ve lost sight of the significant gifts of kindness and service they receive from their spouse each day. Their critical negative attitudes have caused them to miss much of the joy of married life.

Hollywood has done a wonderful job making us believe in "happily ever after." What they’ve failed to do is tell us how to maintain it. You see, they don't tell you what it's like to wake up to someone else's bad breath each day or how to respond when the figure is replaced after 40 or so pounds added after childbirth. Why do we spend more time planning for the wedding than we do planning for the marriage?

Great expectations are commonplace when we enter into a marital relationship but most of us are challenged when the reality hits our imagination head on hurling us through the window of our soul to search for a soft place to land only to find that there are chards of glass and steel waiting to cut us into shreds. Happily ever after can only occur if two individuals are or become healthy on all levels; healthy enough to love unconditionally, healthy enough to be complete in their own right and healthy enough to trust God in all things including marriage.

What aids the process of becoming a couple? Why do some couples struggle? How can we turn that struggle into a victory? Keith and Cheryl Donovan have been married for seventeen years. But they’ve had to work hard and continue to work hard at building a marriage that glorifies God rather than each other. At times, resolve was the only thing that held them together.

Do You Still Do? is an insightful look into the realities of marriage. In it, Keith and Cheryl are honest about their struggles and God’s faithfulness. Because they want others to find real meaning in their marriages, the book equips couples with the attitudes, principles, and skills they need to have a fulfilling marriage of purpose.

Purchase your copy of Do You Still Do What Happens Happily Ever After from http://www.amazon.com. To learn more about Keith and Cheryl visit their website htttp://doyoustilldomarriage.blogspot.com. To schedule them for an interview or for your next conference e-mail them at cherylspeaks@gmail.com

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