The Grip of Limerence: Living with Obsessive Love and Finding Freedom

WASHINGTON - Sept. 28, 2025 - PRLog -- The Grip of Limerence: Living with Obsessive Love and Finding Freedom By Kiran James

Most of us have experienced the rush of attraction, but what happens when those feelings spiral into obsession? In his powerful new book, The Grip of Limerence: Living with Obsessive Love and Finding Freedom, author Kiran James shines a light on one of psychology's most misunderstood states: limerence.

Coined by psychologist Dorothy Tennov in the 1970s, limerence describes the intrusive thoughts, emotional highs and lows, and compulsive behaviours that can take over when we become infatuated with another person. With today's digital world amplifying these tendencies through constant social media access, limerence is more relevant than ever.

Drawing from both personal experience and psychological insights, Kiran James offers readers a compassionate, practical guide to understanding limerence and breaking free from its grip.

Inside the book, readers will discover:

• What limerence feels like and how it differs from healthy love
• Childhood, personality, and social triggers that fuel obsessive love
• The rituals—re-reading messages, checking social media—that keep limerence alive
• Practical strategies for recovery: mindfulness, therapy, boundary-setting, and self-care
• How to protect relationships and build secure, lasting connections

"Limerence is natural, but it doesn't have to define you," James explains. "This book is about helping people understand their experiences, reduce shame, and find healthier ways to love and live."

With relatable storytelling and step-by-step guidance, The Grip of Limerence is a must-read for anyone who has ever felt consumed by obsessive love or struggled to let go of an unattainable attachment.

USA: https://www.amazon.com/Grip-Limerence-Obsessive-Finding-F...
UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FS1C4JS1/

About the Author
Kiran James is a writer and researcher who has lived through the rollercoaster of limerence firsthand. Blending memoir with self-help, his work aims to normalise conversations around obsessive love and provide readers with tools to transform obsession into growth. The Grip of Limerence is his debut book.