More Than 40% Divorced, Widowed Over 40 Not Dating: Respondents Blame Misleading Profiles, Scammers, More
Daters, Online Site Operators Urged to Cure "The Great Dating Divide" Leading to Healthier, More Positive Dating & Relationship Experiences
By: Rand Deminc
The vast majority of the 41.3% participants said they tried dating, but became disappointed and now watch from the sidelines. A smaller percentage had yet to experience a first date after divorce or death of a spouse.
Women (53%) outnumbered men (36%) when indicating their current status as “not dating.”
“The dissatisfaction represents voices of experience. More than 30% had been married at least twice,” said Rand Deminc, author of “Tales of the Flipped Ditched & Anxious” and co-director of the “March Forth Dating Again Over 40” Relationship Study.
Furthermore, 30% said they had met between two and thirty people resulting from online dating.
Leading concerns impacting their dating versus not dating decision include lack of honesty in Internet profiles (and photos) and stories about alleged scammers and other unsavory characters. They also cited their own tighter, more defined criteria than when younger.
“There are several not so hidden messages within the book and the research inspiring daters to be more honest about themselves and online dating site operators to be more honest with their members,” Deminc added.
“Tremendous incentives exist for Internet site operators to positively contribute to cure this great dating divide and attract new and returning members,” said Deminc. “This is a fluid market and they understand the elasticity value in re-attracting those that are not dating and the more than 64% the survey found never tested online dating.”
Tales of the Flipped Ditched & Anxious references the antics of some site operators who over communicate with members and also purportedly use shill tactics to encourage subscriptions and higher activity levels.
Portions of Tales of the Flipped Ditched & Anxious chronicle “10 stages of dating avoidance” and also charts many reasons to date versus counter arguments for not dating. The book, a survival guide to dating again after 40, also busts several dating myths.
Previous released study data:
* 23.7% began dating before a divorce was final through the first three months of officially becoming single again. Nearly 30% waited from six through eighteen months to date again;
* Slightly more than 30% waited more than two years before making the decision to start dating, if starting at all. Women 65-plus (49%) were most apt to wait two years or longer;
* Online dating sites, social activities and group events, and introductions or fix-ups by family, friends and co-workers are top means for finding dates;
* Of respondents who were married, but separated, 44% started dating right away through the first three months and 72% within one year. Men (87%) started dating within the first year versus women (44%);
* 60% of the participants (68% female, 50% male) admitted using the Internet and background checking websites to research dates; and
* 76% of the respondents used texts, emails or websites to socially communicate.
Check www.DitchedAndAnxious.com for more information.
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