I Want My Ex Back - Where Do I Start?

Feb. 27, 2014 - PRLog -- "I want my ex back." Many people in your position have said exactly the same thing for years. The trouble is knowing how to make it happen. There are no manuals or tests that you can take to make your ex see the error of your ways. Winning back your ex is not something that you were ever taught in school either. To top it all off, your friends and family are dead against you getting back together with your ex. They tell you to move on and get over them , that there are plenty more fish in the sea, so you can't ask them for advice either.

Although their intentions are good they fail to take into account how you are feeling. If you are certain that you want to get back together with your ex and that the relationship is a healthy one, there is help out there, just not where you would expect to find it. You are here because all else has failed and no one has been able to give you any substantial advice that works. In order for you to make some inroads with your ex you will have to take a different approach. It will take you out of your comfort zone, but isn't your ex worth fighting for?

First off, you will have to accept that you have been doing something (or lots of things) wrong up until this point. You have failed to get the kind of reaction that you wanted from your ex and are at a dead end. Knowing this, you will have to stop the things that you were doing if you want to have success. Getting your ex back is as much about stopping negative behaviours that turn your ex off as it is about doing the right things. That being said, let's take a look at what you should stop doing right now to get your ex back.

1) Stop Stalking Your Ex
That's right, you know you are doing it. You do. Stalking just doesn't mean that you follow them down dark alleyways at night dressed in a balaclava and in disguise. No, that is just Hollywood. There are so many different forms of stalking nowadays that it is hard to know what you are doing right and wrong. If you think that you are being subtle by trying to bump into your ex by being where you know they will be, just casually turning up at their work, or waiting for them after class, you're NOT!

I'm afraid that your ex will be paying very close attention to you after the break up. If they are the one that ended your relationship they will be waiting for you to step out of line, beg for them back or take the breakup badly. That is why you have to be able to control everything that you do. It may be arrogant of your ex to think that everything you do is for their benefit, but they will. That is why you have to be smart about this.

If they suddenly find themselves bumping into you a lot they will know that it is orchestrated and it will be a huge turn off. Not only will it paint you as desperate and clingy, your ex will want to give you a wide birth, not run into your arms wanting you back. You have to start looking at your behaviour from their perspective for a minute. If you want to get your ex back then you will need to come across as attractive, independent and interesting. Not a stalker who can't move on.

2) No Facebook Updates For A While
After a break up we have a tendency to rush into Facebook and declare that we are now single. We also post songs, quotes and little updates to try and get a reaction from our exes. Admit it, you have done this in the past to no avail. This is exactly the reason why nothing has been working for you. You fail to see things from your ex's perspective. Again, your ex will automatically know that everything you post is a jibe towards them or they will know that you want them to see it.

Unfortunately this comes across as very immature and childish. The last thing that you want is for your ex to think that you are playing mind games with them. I know that you want to communicate with them in any way possible and get them to reach out to you, but this really isn't the way to do it. Instead, to be quite honest, this approach will make them run for the hills.

You want your ex to want you too, and they will only be able to do this if you have some self restraint. That means that you shouldn't be posting any updates on Facebook for at least a couple of weeks, even more if you can control yourself. It also means that you cannot comment or like anything either. If you have to contact your friends it should be done via chat or private message. The secret is to not let your ex know what you are up to.

Disappearing from Facebook will make your ex wonder about you. All sorts of things will start going through their mind, are you ok?, have you moved on? What are you doing and with whom? This is a much more effective strategy than updating your wall with pics of yourself and every thought in your head. It will make your ex reach out to you via text or email. Then you will really know if they are still interested or if they care about you. This is when you up the ante and start implementing other techniques to make your ex want you back desperately. See below.

Your Next Steps - Do You Want Your Ex Back?
First thing is first. You need to understand why you were dumped in the first place and face up to some truths. There is no point in trying to get your ex back if you don't fix what caused the break up in the first place. The link below will explain what makes someone want to end the relationship. You could be shocked by some of these things but you need to know the truth.
http://beingdumped.net/why-you-were-dumped

Avoid These Mistakes With Your Ex
Another vital thing that you need to take into account is your post break up behaviour. Unbeknownst to you, you have probably been making huge mistakes with your ex that are pushing them away and ruining your chances of getting back together. Find out what they are by clicking the link below.
http://beingdumped.net/break-up-mistakes

Find Out How Your Ex Really Feels About You Now
You have been hitting your head against a brick wall, trying to figure out if your ex still has feelings for you, but the more you try, the more confused you are. If your ex is giving you mixed signals you need to get to the bottom of it. The link below will show you what signs you should watch for to find out if your ex still likes you.
http://beingdumped.net/signs-ex-still-likes-me