Should I Delete Him From Facebook After The Breakup?

Feb. 12, 2014 - PRLog -- It used to be so much easier years ago when there was no Facebook around. Breaking up was a much simpler process which involved deleting your ex's number from your phone and trying to avoid them. Now things are much more complicated for you and you have to negotiate the dos and donts of Facebook. Your ex never knew that you had erased their number from your phone, but it is glaringly obvious to them when you hit that delete and block button. There is no going back from that. This is why you have to be careful to make the right decision before you press that button. There are things that you need to think about, consequences that you never even imagined.

Even if you delete him from Facebook your paths will probably still cross at some point. You still have his email address, phone number, same circle of friends etc. He is bound to pop up in conversation. This doesn't seem half as bad as having to deal with his virtual presence on Facebook. His wall will suddenly blow up with activity and you will have a window into his new life without you. Not only that, you will be forced to look at the new pictures he uploads of himself, out and about and having fun with his new single life. Makes you think that deleting your ex boyfriend is your only option, but is it really?

That depends. Are you hoping that you two will get back together down the line? If so, then deleting your ex boyfriend on Facebook will prove counter-productive. In fact, Facebook can be a very powerful tool (if used correctly) to help you in the process of reconciling with him. If on the other hand, you see no future with him, want to move on and aren't even interested in a friendship with him, deleting him seems like the healthy option. There is no point in holding onto something that is bad for you. You need to think carefully about what you really want before you take the drastic decision of deleting him from Facebook entirely.

What About Your Relationship Status on Facebook

Now that you find yourself single you will probably have a sudden compulsion to log onto Facebook and declare yourself single, before he has the chance. You probably think that it will hurt him if you have decided to cut the virtual ties by telling your friends that it is over. You would be wrong here. Even if he did break up with you, rushing to try and get some revenge by any means necessary is kind of silly and childish. Do you think he will actually sit around lamenting his decision to end things because you changed your relationship status to single? The truth is that he won't.

You will only end up looking foolish to him and your friends. It is really immature to rush onto Facebook and try to make a point and it will be obvious to your ex boyfriend what you are doing. Of course you will have to change your relationship status eventually, pretending that you are still his girlfriend is also crazy, but there is no rush to do it the second you split. What looks so much better to your ex boyfriend is if you wait a while.


Your Best Course Of Action

In truth, you want to appear mature, attractive and independent to your ex, to make them still like you and regret the break up. This will only happen if you act maturely and don't jump the gun. Why would you think that deleting him the very same day that you break up will achieve this? It won't. Deleting him from your friends list is irreversible, you cannot hit the back button and he will reappear again. I wish it was that easy. You were friends during your relationship and unfortunately things have taken a wrong turn somewhere down the line. Do you really want to throw that friendship away because you aren't together romantically any more? Of course it will take time to establish a friendship with him, but if there is a possibility, isn't it the preferable option?

Try to stay off Facebook completely for a while. Of course you will have a natural tendency to want to keep tabs on your ex and Facebook is an easy way to do this, but it will only make you lash out and say something that you will later regret. Log off and stay off. It will make your ex boyfriend start to wonder about you much more than if you are constantly updating your wall. Peak his curiosity and make him do the work if he wants to know how you are. When you are telling everyone on your friend's list what you are doing and how you are feeling all the time, he will never make the effort to find out for himself. Remain aloof and, this is much more effective than deleting him from Facebook.

The worst thing about you being on Facebook after your breakup is that it gives your ex boyfriend a front row seat into your life. He will be able to discern your emotional state by what you say and post, reading into everything to see if you are taking jibes at him. This is natural and he will be on high alert about your movements post break up. Don't give him the pleasure. When you deny him access into your life he will begin to question what you are up to. If you are not stuck to Facebook all day then he will automatically assume that you have much better things to do. This will inevitably lead him to question whether you have moved on from him already, something that he just didn't expect.

I know it's difficult, but you have to refrain from checking your news feed every hour. You will need A LOT of self-restraint and willpower to avoid Facebook, but it is a necessary part of the healing process. Instead of wasting your time trying to decipher what his posts really mean, you should be concentrating on yourself. Breakups can take their toll physically and emotionally. You need to spoil yourself and spend some time doing what you want to do. Stalking his statuses will not make you feel any better, in fact it will wind up making you feel like crap. If you want to drastically increase your chances of getting back together it is time to step away from social media completely and go off the radar.

Your Next Steps - Do You Want Him Back?

Making mistakes on Facebook is only part of the problem. There are so many more pitfalls that you should be avoiding post break up if you want to get him back. By nipping the negative behaviours in the bud you will instantly be more attractive to him. Learn what they are by clicking the link below.
http://beingdumped.net/break-up-mistakes

Does He Still Have Feelings For You?

There is no point in guessing how your ex boyfriend feels about you, asking him isn't an option either. You need to know where you stand with him if you want to get back together. Luckily there are ways to decipher his behaviour to work out how he feels. The link below will show you what you should be looking out for.
http://beingdumped.net/signs-ex-still-likes-me

Contact With Your Ex Boyfriend

Getting contact with your ex boyfriend just right is essential if you want to make him desire you again. Find out how and when to contact him to increase your chances of getting back together below.  http://beingdumped.net/contact-with-ex