Ex Boyfriend Still Cares - What Did He Mean By That?

Feb. 5, 2014 - PRLog -- When your ex boyfriend tells you that he still cares it can be confusing. What on earth does he mean by that? Is he saying that he still has feelings for you or does he just want you to know that he wants to look out for you as a friend? That is a conundrum that you need to get to grips with if you are to know where you really stand with your ex boyfriend. Unfortunately you cannot read his mind or feel what he feels, but there are other ways of figuring out what he means. Then you won't have to spend endless hours trying to decipher his language for hidden meanings.

Trouble is, when you ask your friends what they think he meant, they will naturally want to make you feel better by hiding the truth from you. No one wants to say that it probably means nothing and that you should forget about it. They will likely get excited for you and get your hopes up, telling you that it is obvious that he still has feelings for you. Although they mean well, your girlfriends will never be upfront and realistic with you. This ultimately leads to disappointment and you making a fool of yourself in front of your ex boyfriend.

Try Not To Get Over Excited

Your ex boyfriend still cares about you. That is great, it is better than him hating you and not wanting to talk to you ever again. However, it is important not to jump the gun and rush to tell him that you still love him. Just because he takes the trouble to tell you that he cares about you, it does not necessarily mean that he wants to give things another go with you. You have to be careful here if you want to save face and your friendship. Digging a litte deeper and figuring him out is a must.

Truthfully, it is important that you don't take everything that he says at face value. This doesn't necessarily mean that he is lying to you or trying to play you, it just means that we sunconsciously hope for the best when we interact with our exes, especially if we still have feelings for them. We can often delude ourselves that they are still interested when in fact they are just being cordial and friendly. Don't make this mistake.

Your ex boyfriend is probablu all to aware of how badly the breakup affected you. He also probably knows that you still have feelings for him. This puts him in a tricky position. He doesn't want to hurt you anymore than he already has, but he doesn't want to give you false hope either. By telling you that he still cares about you, he is trying to strike a balance and let you know that you still mean a lot to him and reassure you.

Think about it, we often say things to our friends to make them feel better about themselves. "You look great in that outfit", or "he stilll likes you" can roll off the tongue so much easier than the actual truth. Your ex boyfriend is no different, he could be trying to protect your feelings.

Guilt Could Be A Huge Factor

If it was him that ended your relationship he might still feel really uilty about the damage that it caused you. When he tells you that he still cares about you then he does mean it in his own way. It might just not be the way you want him to mean it, that is all. It is possible for someone to still care about you and not want to be with you romantically. "Care" can mean very different things to people and you might be interpreting it differently to him.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

It is all well and good that your ex boyfriend still cares, but is he doing anything that demonstrates this? Sometimes words can ring very hollow when he doesn't back them up with actions. If he is making more of an effort with you, contacting you regularly, trying to impress you etc, that is a clue that he still has feelings for you. You need to be able to examine everything he does and says to really determine the meaning behind his words.

Has he completely disappeared since the breakup? Does he seem happy and getting on with his life? Is he ignoring you or being distant? If this is the case then his words are just hot air and you shouldn't be paying too much attention to them. He likely means that he still cares about you as a person and that he wants the best for you, this is very different indeed from him wanting to be with you again.

The Good News - He Might Want You Back

Despite all the doom and gloom, there may be a more positive ending in store for you. There is a good chance that your ex boyfriend is telling you that he still cares because he still thinks about you romantically. Every situation is different after all. Don't just examine his words though. You will have to pay attention to what he does and says in the upcoming days and weeks to find out where you really stand with him.

If he is making a concerted effort to remain in your life, giving cryptic messages to you, getting emotional or trying to push you for your feelings towards him, you stand a good chance of getting him back.

Whatever his intentions are it is essential that you remain realistic and don't get ahead of yourself. You have to play things carefully if you do want to get back together with your ex boyfriend. Nor do you want to be let down and be broken hearted again. You need to protect yourself from hurt and hold back until you know how he really feels. Luckily there are plenty of signs that you should be looking out for to discern his true feelings towards you. The links below will help.

Your Next Steps - Do You Want Him Back?

Before you start pursuing him you need to know where you stand with him. There are so many clues that you should be looking out for that will tell you definitively that he still likes you. Find out what they are by clicking the link below.
http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2012/03/does-he-still-like-me-how-to-find-out

Attract Him Back To You Again

To make your ex boyfriend want you, he has to be attracted to you again, just like he was at the start. There are certain techniques that you should start implementing now to reignite that desire that he once had for you. The link below explains exactly what you should be doing now.
http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2011/11/how-to-make-your-ex-boyfriend-attracted-to-you

Avoid These Mistakes

On the path to get back your ex boyfriend, you will undoubtedly be making loads of mistakes, ones that could ruin your chances for good. You need to see how he views your behaviour after the break up and how to behave in a way that is desirable and attractive to him. Click the link below to know what you should be avoiding.
http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2012/07/mistakes-girls-make-after-the-break-up