He Broke Up With Me - How Do I Win Him Back?

Dec. 30, 2013 - PRLog -- He broke up with you and your heart is breaking. It may have been expected or could have come from a bolt out of the blue. Whatever your specific circumstance is, you need to know something. It doesn't have to be this way. This might sound stupid to you right now. Your world has ended and you see no hope for the future, can't imagine ever having him back or making him see sense. It is important to take comfort in the fact that many girls in your position have turned the tables in the most impossible of circumstances. You can too, it just takes a little know-how and patience.

That being said, you mustn't rush into things, run around to your ex boyfriend's house and plead for him to reconsider. That WON'T work. There are ways and means and you need to learn them if you are to stand any chance with him again. Now is the time to wallow a bit, you need to grieve for a while because you have lost someone special to you. If you do not give yourself this time then you will only be an emotional wreck who is bound to do and say something stupid later on down the line. Locking yourself away for a couple of weeks and spoiling yourself is a must! Grab your favourite chocolate and watch reruns of the most soppy romantic movies, it will actually do you good! The most important thing is that you stay away from your ex boyfriend, his friends and family and just use this time on yourself. You will feel a lot better afterwards.

Win Him Back By Backing Off

Your first instinct will probably be to ring him, text him or try to bump into him. No one blames you for wanting to be near him or speak to him again, after all you spent so much time together. Suddenly being ripped away from him with no contact whatsoever is difficult - you're not going to settle into this transition easily. No one expects you to either. What you have to keep in mind is that your ex boyfriend will see you in a negative light if you stalk him or hound him after the break up. He will be expecting you to act in a certain way - the crazy ex. Don't give him the satisfaction. You are mature, dignified and controlled. Your internal struggle does not have to be obvious to him, he doesn't have to know that you are desperate to hear his voice.

When you back off for a while it will have a huge impact on your ex boyfriend. Secretly he thought that you would still be in his life in some form or another after the split. He may have even suggested remaining friends. At the very least he anticipated a text or two from you. When you don't give him these things he will start to ask himself why. He might start to slip into panic mode that you are seeing someone else or that you don't have feelings left for him anymore. He might get paranoid that you don't want to be part of his life anymore. Either way, he never thought that this would happen and he will start making an effort with you again to prevent losing you for good. This is when you will know he still cares about you. Clever eh?

Another fundamental reason for staying away from him is to stop you from doing things that you will later regret. We have all heard about the made girls who fly into histrionics about their ex boyfriends, sit outside their houses spying on them, or creating fake facebook profiles to flirt with them trying to catch them out. We all know at least one girl that we have felt sorry for and who has made an utter fool of themselves in front of their ex boyfriend. You do not want to be this girl. The scary thing is that it is so much easier to become her than you think. When your emotions are all over the place after a break up it is impossible to think clearly. You act on impulse and do and say things out of anger.

Just stop to think about how this behaviour looks to your ex boyfriend. Instead of coming back to you with open arms wanting to give it another try, he will be anxious to get away from you, plunging his foot to the pedal, screeching his tyres and leaving you behind in the dust. You have to understand that this behaviour is unattractive to him, or anyone for that matter. You need to be someone that he wants to be around, he needs to see you in a positive light again and kick himself for leaving you. You can make him come to this realisation faster than you think. By studying male psychology and making some changes in your life, you can being about a huge change in your ex boyfriend. The first step is always distance and self control, the next steps are below. Learn what to do and when to turn your predicament around.

Your Next Steps - Do You Want Him Back?

You now have the basic to enable you to get your ex boyfriend back, but this is not all that you should be doing. To drastically increase your chances of success you will need to understand where he is coming from and how his mind works. The first thing that you need to understand is why you broke up in the first place. He had his reasons and he will never really tell you the truth, so it is up to you to understand why men leave women and how you can prevent it from happening again. The link below explains all.
http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2012/05/why-do-men-leave-women

Signs Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You

You also need to know how your ex boyfriend feels about you after the break up. It would be humiliating and hurtful to put in all of this effort only to be told that he no longer wants or loves you. Reading the signs that he still has feelings for you is vital to avoid such situations. Find out what they are by clicking the link below.
http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2012/07/signs-ex-boyfriend-still-loves-you

How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

You need a plan to get him back, rushing in and hoping for the best is not going to cut it. The link below sets out exactly what you should be doing now to make a reunion possible. Get started now.
http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/get-my-boyfriend-back