Calling Your Ex Boyfriend - What You Need To Know

Sept. 21, 2013 - PRLog -- Calling your ex boyfriend can seem like a daunting task after your break up. This is compounded by the fact that you don't know what to say to him. The first thing you need to know after your breakup is that it is fully possible to repair the damage that the breakup caused. You can get your ex-boyfriend back, but you need to know what to do before you jump the gun and call him up before making a single move - or a single phone call.

Get Your Ex to Miss You Before Making Your Move:

A lot of women make the mistake of trying to reestablish contact immediately after their relationship ends. You don't want to fall into this category. Not only is it common, but it's also a huge mistake. All you're doing is driving a wedge between you and your ex, and that wedge is not going to be easily displaced later on. Breakups are emotional times, and both you and your ex-boyfriend need a chance to heal from the residual negativity before you can hope to reestablish positive communication. This certainly needs to be considered before moving forward.

Call Your Ex at a Good Time:

You can't just drop a phone call on your ex out of the blue without carefully considering all of the options that you have available to you. You need to catch your ex at a good time if you want to be able to move forward. He needs to view this conversation positively if you hope to have another one.

It's never positive to call your ex right before he has to head out for work or a reoccurring appointment that you know he has an obligation to. You also don't want to call him when you're likely to catch him when he's out with the guys. You want to catch him when he's home alone.

After dark, once work is over and he's had some time to kick off his shoes and relax is your best bet for placing your first phone call. This is the time when he's likely to be at his most vulnerable. He's therefore going to be open to hearing from you, and he's probably been thinking about you - even if he'll never admit it.

A Good Plan Includes a Good Reason for Calling:

You also want to come up with a reason for making that call in the first place. If you don't have a reason, you're likely to trip all over your words, and the conversation can quickly turn into an awkward mess. Needless to say, that is not going to bode well for your chances moving forward.

Two reasons take the cake over practically any others. The first positive reason for calling is to inquire after his family members. You probably got close to them while the two of you were dating, and it's perfectly reasonable for you to reach out and see how they're doing - especially if there was something going on with them.

The other perfectly acceptable reason is to offer your congratulations for a milestone that he's accomplished when the two of you were apart. If he graduated, got a promotion or had a birthday, then you certainly have something to offer congratulations on. Let him know that you didn't know whether you should call or not, but you decided to reach out anyway. He will appreciate the gesture, and he'll see you in a positive light because of it.

Make the Most of Your First Contact:

Once you dial his number and he answers, you need to know how to talk to him in order to keep the process running smoothly. While your pulse is running a million miles a minute and it's hard to catch your breath, try to assert an air of calm, confident assertiveness. While you feel like you're spiraling out of control, portray an air of control to him - and he won't know that you're faking it.

If you are afraid that you'll say the wrong thing, ask him questions and let him do the majority of the talking. You want him to be able to open up to him again, and you'll want to keep the lines of communication open again. Your first conversation is going to be nothing more than small talk - and that's exactly what it should be. You want to leave the serious stuff for later. Now is not the time to be focusing on it if you hope to move forward positively.

Know How to End Your Call:

The key thing that you need to remember is that you need to be in control of this entire situation from beginning to end. You need to therefore talk the initiative to end the call when the appropriate time has come, and you don't want him to do it for you.

After you two have had a brief opportunity to catch up, it's time to end the call positively. Tell your ex that you're sorry, but you have something else that you need to do. He's going to wonder what's so important that you have to stop talking to him, and you're automatically going to become more attracted to you again. This will move you forward by leaps and bounds in your future efforts, and it will give you an open door to move through.

Your Next Steps - Do You Want Him Back?

Knowing how to call your ex boyfriend after the break up is only one part of the puzzle. Before you even do this you should have implemented the no contact rule. If you want to make your ex boyfriend call you and chase you again this part is vital. Click the link below to find out more.

http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2012/07/use-the-no-contact-rule-to-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back

Are You Making These Mistakes With Your Ex Boyfriend?

It is common to make a whole load of mistakes with your ex boyfriend, even if you think you are doing everything right. These detrimental behaviours can push your ex boyfriend away from you and ruin your chances of a reconciliation. Find out how what these mistakes are below.

http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2012/07/mistakes-girls-make-after-the-break-up

Does He Still Like You?

You need to be able to know where you stand with your ex boyfriend. He is not going to admit that he still likes you himself, that is why you have to do the detective work. The link below will show you the signs he still has feelings for you.

http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2012/03/does-he-still-like-me-how-to-find-out