Eliminating the Drama & Chaos to Find Authentic Happiness

July 13, 2012 - PRLog -- Today, I’d like to talk to you about something very specific that gets between where we are and where we want to be. You see, we tend to believe that it’s one big thing that determines whether we’re happy or fulfilled in life. It’s the perfect spouse, the perfect job, the right amount of money. But, in and of of itself those things cannot determine our happiness. Well, first of all we know that happiness comes from the inside out, and more important than that there’s a lot to do with all the little things that make all difference. In fact, there’s millions of things that contribute to our overall well-being and happiness.

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There’s one in particular that I want to talk about today that makes a big difference in finding happiness in any given moment and that’s our environment. Not just the house we live in, but it’s the people we surround ourselves by, the drama we buy into, and the chaos with which we live our life. You see, if we were a recovering alcoholic and we came out of rehab, we wouldn’t go back and hang out with the same people we hung out with before that helped us to become an alcoholic to begin with, if we wanted to become sober. You see, but in our life if we want something different we can’t always hang out with the same people. Sometimes we have to move forward. We have to surround ourselves with people that see us in the light that we want to be seen by.

For example, if you’re not fully happy and invested in the way your life is right now, oftentimes the people around you may not be supporting or fulfilling where you are. We’re often surrounded by people who support us and people who, maybe tear us down a little bit. It’s not always one or the other, but we always have a little bit of both in our life. But we have a choice about who we’re going to spend our time with. And if we really want to create our life in a positive, supportive, fulfilled way, we often need to spend time with the people, the environment, and things that really support that part of ourselves.

The other part of environment is the chaos and drama we surround ourselves with, whether it’s the news, the newspaper, the people at the water cooler that are telling us stories, the drama, or the reputation management you almost have to fulfill in any kind of workplace. You see, managing our environment is almost as important as managing our INvironment, what’s happening inside of us, because you have to surround yourself with people and things that support who you are in your life.

You’re never really going to step into who you really want to be, while you are in an abusive relationship, while you’re surrounded by co-workers that really don’t see you for who you are, when you are in a dynamic that really isn’t fulfilling who you want to be. So, if you really want to find happiness and fulfillment, you have to start by being honest about the people that you surround yourself with, that you’re spending time with, about the environment that you’ve created for yourself – nd it might mean that you make some changes on the outside.

We’ve talked a lot about changing from the inside out. We know that happiness can only be found on the inside. Yet, there are many things that can be done on the outside that determine whether we’re able to fulfill that part of ourselves from the inside out. We have to pay attention to the things that we’re doing, the people we’re spending time with, how we are getting caught up in the drama in this world. Because we know there’s so much drama. You turn on the news and there’s so many negative things, so much politics, so many things that take us out of our positive space.

But if those things don’t support who you are and where you’re going in your life, then there’s a power button to turn it off. And that’s really the opportunity we have in this life, to choose something different. If you don’t like where your life is, if you don’t like where your life is going, you can change it. Sometimes it feels like you’re not in control, but I’m here to tell you that you are. And in fact you’re the only one who is. There’s really nobody else in this entire world that can fix it for you.

You can believe in God, you can believe in anything that you want. But at some point you have to take ownership and responsibility for the choices that you’ve made, especially if you want to make different choices that are going to impact your future in a different way. So you see, you really are in the driver seat, I really am in a driver seat of my life. And if you can accept that, that sense of empowerment allows you to make different choices. You get to choose who you’re going to spend time with, where you’re going to work, how you’re going to be, how you’re going to live, how you’re going to act in this life. It’s those factors alone, alone, that determine whether you’re happy and fulfilled in life.

That’s really what it comes down to. It’s a lot simple that we think it is, it’s who we’re choosing to be and how we’re taking ourselves, our inner self, our truth, the fullness of who we are, out into the world to be and become everything we want to be. It’s not pie in the sky, in fact it could happen in every given moment, it happens right now. With the choices that you make right after you watch this video your life will either continue in the path that you’ve created over the last years, decades, or since you’ve been born, or it will take a very different course and you get to choose that. So, I hope you choose wisely, consciously with awareness. Choose something that fulfilling and inspiring. Surround yourself with people that help lift you up and not bring you down.

I hope you found this video helpful in your life in finding happiness and fulfillment and until next time…many blessings!

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Seth David Chernoff is the award-winning author of the acclaimed Manual For Living book series. He was given the amazing gift of life after surviving cancer on two separate occasions. He is an inspiring leader and an in-demand speaker, trainer and coach. Seth has helped thousands of people find true happiness and fulfillment through his books, seminars, and lectures. Seth’s life-changing message reaches over 20,000 people a month and his work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Chicago Tribune, San Francisco Chronicle, Popular Mechanics, Business Week, USA Today, and on hundreds of TV and radio interviews nationally and internationally. As the founder of True Happiness Immersion, Chernoff is a leading expert on Happiness & Fulfillment. Learn more at www.SethChernoff.com.