Will You Be the Last Man Standing

Oct. 12, 2011 - PRLog -- “Will you be the last man standing?”  A lot of people who are single after 40 and are into the process of how to find love, but are not finding a soulmate, could end up like Tim Allen’s character in this ABC sitcom, not exactly the last man holding the bastion of manhood in the face of overwhelming female power, but somebody who will be alone in reliving their youthful memories and left behind in retirement homes.

Humans are hardwired to couple up.  The quest to answer “how can I find love” is nature’s way to ensure the continuation of the human species.  However, more and more women – even women from countries which once relegated them to the household – are choosing to opt out of marriage, for several good reasons:  the educational opportunities that were opened up to them, the freedom to pursue their careers, the opportunity to enjoy ample personal space, and the time to fulfill their duties to care for aging members of the family, especially their parents (for Asian women in particular).  For these women, finding a soulmate is somehow relegated to the footnotes.

These choices, taken collectively, are in fact reshaping the landscape of gender roles and expectations all over the world.  The West has started seeing the gradual rise of women to power, and the momentum has continued and spilled over to recalcitrant parts of the world, like Asia, where women were once “doomed” to become caretakers of their husbands, children, and the household.  How to find love was somehow slowly supplanted by how to find thriving careers and more meaningful lives outside of the marriage context.  Women are finding this set-up is working well for them; collectively, this is laying the groundwork for a new social reality.

The growing number of women who are becoming independent-minded has serious ramifications on various levels.  This can be clearly seen in ABC’s Tim Allen comedy where Mike Baxter’s wife and three daughters’ are “overrunning” the household.  Apparently, men will have to come to terms with the fact that gender stereotypes have been reversed, and those who are not comfortable with that emerging reality may have to remain single after 40, or even single for life. The income gap between men and women are narrowing, and it will not be before long when women will “wear the pants.”  For men who are asking “how do I find true love,” embracing the feminine order of things will have to be an important part of the process of finding a soulmate.  It is either embracing that new reality, or running the risk of becoming the last man standing, an aging bachelor amidst a sea of eligible women.

From the economic perspective, there is benefit to having citizens in their prime provide tradable skills and talents, unencumbered by other obligations outside work that could diminish productivity.  There is however, a downside to achieving increased economic output at the expense of how to find love and eventually getting hitched.  The decline of marriage is one contributing factor to declining birth rates.  In the 1960s, fertility rates in Asia were an average 5 children per woman; now, that rate has slid down to a mere 1.6, even 1.0 in countries with the lowest marriage rates.  This is because a lot of Asian women who plan to stay single after 40 are discovering, like their Western counterparts before them, that their worlds can be much broader than the four corners of a home.

Choosing to remain single after 40 has its attractions and perks, notwithstanding the dire implications it may have on a national, and even global, scale.  On a personal note, however, marriage socializes both genders, with more benefits accruing to men than to women. It may be a huge challenge to embark on a journey on how to find love and eventually finding a soulmate, but consider the consequences for not doing so.  Single is fun in prime years, and even well into middle age, but will it remain so in old age?  Becoming the “last man standing,” alone and without company, does not really look appealing when one considers that family is everything.

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