Couple Reveals Struggles With Infidelity

Feb. 26, 2010 - PRLog -- CHARLOTTE, N.C. - Misty and Ray Clark look like they have it all: a beautiful baby girl. A nice home. Each other. The couple married just after high school. Their problems had already begun. Misty, struggling with her weight and self esteem issues, noticed her husband's wandering eye. "I thought that my weight was the problem, I thought I wasn't pretty enough,” she says. She underwent gastric bypass surgery and lost an incredible 260 pounds. Misty hoped her new body would turn her husband's head away from the strip clubs he was frequenting. "It got to the point where I was mimicking their behavior. I went and took pole dancing classes once I lost weight,” she says.

It wasn't enough. Misty's husband kept cheating. And eventually, Misty started cheating, too. The cycle continued for 12 years, even after their daughter was born. Misty says, "Everything just dripped with anger. And resentment." Misty, also struggling with alcohol and drugs, started keeping a journal. And that was the turning point. "Things were coming out of me, they were honest, they were raw emotion, and I just spewed.” Misty's journals evolved into a book she titled To Hell With It, because that's how she felt after the last time she caught Ray cheating. Putting it all in black and white has helped him figure out why he started to cheat. "It wasn't any problems I had with her. It was more along the lines of issues I had myself and self esteem issues and everything else,” says Ray.

The couple takes it day by day. Both still have trust issues. Ray says the affairs weren't worth it. He says, "If you had a choice staring you in the face right now, I'd say no, don't do it."

One day, the couple says they'll share their story with their daughter. In the meantime, Misty hopes her book helps other couples realize they are not alone.

The couple says they have found strength in their religion. Misty has even offered to discuss her book at local churches, but has so far been turned down because of its explicit content.

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To Hell With It
The Point Of No Return
By Misty Clark, Coney Ray Clark, Vicki Knight

Like so many others I was sick and tired of being sick and tired! I hated where my life had gotten me and despised my own husband. My marriage was over and I was slipping into alcoholism, drugs, and suicidal thoughts. It was a long slow death but my husband's choice to enjoy a love affair with pornography and no leadership of his home was creating a monster in our home. That monster turned out to be me. I had become an angry, bitter, scorned wife not knowing how to change myself or save my marriage. Having my first child and loving her so much but longing to die due to the pain I felt in my marriage. I no longer had the strength to move forward. I made choices to in act my own revenge and ultimately damage my marriage further and kill myself even more. Suicide became the only way to end the pain and save my daughter from her own mother, until God stepped in and revealed another path.

About the author:
I am not an author or an English professor. I am an everyday American Woman that has been raised in a religious home yet finding I was unarmed for what life was bringing my way. Feeling guilty, ashamed, worthless, and angry I slid into a pit. Face to face with satan over choices that I made and I will never return there again. Instead I will scream how much of a liar he is and that there is hope for you! The only mission I have is to be a woman that will make her husband and family proud. I am going to raise my daughter to the best of my ability and learn to change my hearts condition one mistake at a time. I am very thankful for the chance to tell my success story and to work toward repairing my family with the leader of my home, my husband. I am finding that our journey is just beginning and we have a lifetime to figure things out.

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I am a married woman with a child. I lost everything in my life prior to my daughter, including my husband, job, wealth, and three children prior to my baby girl. I had nothing. My life was miserable.