An Earful About Loud Bar/Bat Mitzvah Parties

Oct. 2, 2009 - PRLog -- How often do you come home from a bar or bat mitzvah complaining not only about your sore feet, but also about the ringing in your ears? While kids may enjoy the blaring music, most adults think it’s way over the top.

“If I have to spend more time in the lobby than in the banquet room at the next affair, I’m asking for my gift back!” says Lori Robinson, a New York mom who’s attended more than her fair share of loud bar and bat mitzvahs.

Overly loud music should not be the most memorable feature of your child’s big event.  Have a discussion with your DJ about your sound requests and expectations in advance, experts suggest.

“Ask your DJ to focus his or her speakers towards the dance floor, not the tables,” suggests Bob English, of the New York State Disc Jockey Association.  A pro-active DJ tests the room’s acoustics before the party, and rechecks the volume near the tables during the event.  “The rule of thumb for DJs is 10 decibels over the ambient crowd noise; any more is over-inflated ego.”

According to audiologist Stephen Glasser, Au.D., director of Long Island Audiology (http://www.longislandaudiology.com), requesting softer music during the meal and at regular intervals throughout the event is a good idea.  He cautions that the louder the dance music is, and the longer the sustained exposure to it, the greater the likelihood of experiencing ringing in the ears (tinnitus).

What if you or your children are guests at one of these high decibel affairs?

“When dancing, try to position yourself at least ten feet away from loud speakers,” suggests Dr. Glasser.   “And remember to take a break,” leaving the room with the music for periodic intervals.

He also recommends drinking plenty of water and limiting alcohol.  “Alcohol is dehydrating, and being dehydrated, overheated or tired increases your vulnerability and lowers your sensitivity to the warning signs of pain.”

Also, when seated, “refrain from shouting in your neighbor’s ear to be heard—you can damage his or her hearing.”  

Many hosts now offer colorful foam ear plugs to guests, placing bowls of them on the “adult tables.”   These plugs do not block out sound completely, and can be worn discreetly.  

“I no longer take it as an insult to my age to be seated far, far away from the DJ,” says Robinson.  “It’s nice to be able to hold a conversation.”  

Lastly, Dr. Glasser says “If your ears ring for a length of time, consider seeing an audiologist for an evaluation."

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Long Island Audiology (www.LongIslandAudiology.com) is located in Great Neck (1000 Northern Blvd, 516 482-0660) and Rockville Centre (195 N. Village Ave., 516 536-5874). Ask about purchasing quantities of individually wrapped foam earplugs, available in a variety of colors.