Help For Baby Boomer Generation Who Face Losing Their Parents

BRECKENRIDGE, Colo. - May 18, 2017 - PRLog -- Award winning author, Lisa J. Shultz, is of the Baby Boomer generation and lost her father, age 89 in 2015. In her new book, A Chance to Say Goodbye: Reflections on Losing a Parent, she embraces a challenging and often avoided topic of facing the end-of-life stage of a loved one. With courage, vulnerability and love, she recounts her dad's storied life, including its difficult ending. Wrought with what she felt was unnecessary suffering in for all involved at the end, she strives to help others find a more peaceful final chapter of life.

"Part tribute, part memoir, part guide, A Chance to Say Goodbye succeeds on all counts, with lyrical writing and thorough research... In recounting her father's story, Shultz enables readers to share in her loss. And she offers a wealth of practical advice on everything from writing an obituary to clearing out a house... Thought provoking and absorbing, A Chance to Say Goodbye has much to offer readers willing to confront the challenging subject of end-of-life." -- BlueInk Starred Review

Shultz begins her book by providing the background of her father, a World War II veteran. Their relationship was tenuous in Lisa's youth because she was disappointed and angered by his behavior, distancing herself from him and blaming him for the sudden end to their intact comfortable family life. As a young adult and after her father's sudden heart attack, Lisa was given a second chance to heal their relationship. Over the next three decades, they became closer, enjoying time together, including travel. When her dad entered his eighties, and while still raising her own children, Lisa found herself unprepared for his steady health decline. Suddenly, she was thrust into the role of overseeing his care as he began to experience increasing disability and the beginnings of dementia.

Not having prepared for or anticipated such a role, Lisa floundered as she attempted to address his ever-changing situation. The closeness and healing they had achieved was challenged as her father resisted conversations about his failing health and his care, exacerbated by a western medical system that fell short to prepare them for the end of his life.

After her father's death, Lisa began researching and compiling information aimed at educating and supporting others who may not be equipped for the challenges and decisions that arise when those we love begin to lose their health and mental clarity. The book also reminds us of our own mortality and inspires conversation and preparation to potentially ease the suffering for ourselves and those we leave behind.

Karen M. Wyatt MD, author of What Really Matters: 7 Lessons for Living from the Stories of the Dying, wrote the foreword to A Chance to Say Goodbye wrote the Foreword for the book. Wyatt states, "This book can change our entire society for the better and allow everyone 'a chance to say goodbye' with those we love."

Foreword Clarion Review had this to say about the book, "Shultz is a self-critical guide through the process of loss, but she also seems to find some peace in the idea that her insights might help others to make healthier choices. Communication stands out as an essential tool, and Shultz's preparatory notes are full of sage advice. Prose is clear and direct, and the end result is both reflective and encouraging. A Chance to Say Goodbye is a heartfelt, moving reminder that loving words are never wasted. In its personal nature, it makes convincing arguments against risking regret."

A moving tribute to a remarkable man and a daughter's experience of losing her dad, A Chance to Say Goodbye gives rise to reflections about what is important in living and dying.

The book is now available in paperback.
https://www.amazon.com/Chance-Say-Goodbye-Reflections-Losing/dp/0998650900/

Author: Lisa J. Shultz, http://lisajshultz.com/

ISBN: 978-0998650906

Format: Soft Cover, 6 x 0.6 x 9 inches, 242 pages

Retail Price: $16.00

Publisher: High Country Publications