Personal Code of Honor Decreases Domestic Violence, and Other Amazing Claims

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Personal Code of Honor Decreases Domestic Violence, and Other Amazing Claims from Author’s “Honor System”

It's not enough for Jim Ellis, International Communications Director for MDI (Mentor, Discover, Inspire), to be in integrity with his word within his business, friendship and familial relations. Ellis - carrying a keen desire to uplift community, mend relations between fathers and daughters and sons, as well as bring to the forefront a sense of sacred honor - has outlined the promises of honor within what he calls "The Honor System." As a member of MDI, an international men's organization dedicated to men's success, Ellis has developed his theories working in MDI leadership positions for 16 years, and has outlined them in his book "The Honor Book: Reclaiming the Honorable Life for Your Power, Success and Freedom."

Says Ellis, "Through direct observation and years worth of failing and succeeding in an environment safe to do both, I've seen a trend. I see how honor - being right within yourself and your agreements with others - uplifts a man in his life, whereas the lack of honor within men creates a sense of depression, a lack of focus and a fall into various forms of abuse. I want to see the trend towards the higher path."

The problem, Ellis says, is that society has seen men isolated and frustrated with nowhere to take these unresolved emotions. Abuse grows, he says, as a result of the stagnation of emotion, which has the man disconnect from his higher nature. Add in isolation which breeds unaccountability, and the man is left alone with his frustration, his self-inflicting vices and sometimes a vulnerable female.  

The solution to these scenarios is not to discount or diminish man's aggressive masculine nature, as has been done in some scenarios attempting to quarantine men in some sort of pen - domesticating, feminizing and castrating them. The solution to ending violence perpetrated by men is not to detract or diminish the raw masculine spirit but to add into the dynamic the deeply ingrained sense of honor. And what is this "honor?" According to Ellis, "Honor for men is the integrity he has with his true self, one that is attached to the well-being of a larger picture, such as community, society and humanity."

Says Ellis, the results of living a life of integrity - "The Promises of Honor" - include:

•   A calm and centered mind
•   Peaceful contentedness - a clear gut
•   An abundant nature
•   Ease of manifesting goals and intentions
•   Joyful connections with others
•   Freedom from guilt, shame and regret
•   Decreased divorce rate
•   Decreased rates of all abuse, such as domestic violence
•   Decreased abuses of drugs and alcohol
•   Lower crime rates

The ticket to this empowerment is what Ellis calls the "Honor System."  

"It's almost too simple for others to believe it works, but it does," Ellis says.

According to the author of "The Honor Book," the system simply outlines how a man can stay in honor even if he breaks his word or a person standard. The Honor System:

1.   Create your own agreements with yourself or a personal "code of honor" that helps your family, community and society, such as "I am good to my word" and "I am on time."
2.   Give permission for another friend to call you out on your behaviors that break these standards, without you questioning or debating your friend. Trust and empower him that much.
3.   When your friend or you discover that you are out of honor - do some form of action that makes right (or atones for) the broken word or agreement.
4.   If your actions negatively impact another, simply use the long-lost power phrase "What can I do to make it up to you?"
5.   Do what the person asks. If they say, "Ah, that's alright" - and they will - then create your own action that gives back to the one you impacted in some way, shape or form.
6.   No apologizing allowed. Perform an action; don't simply offer a "sorry."
7.   Read "The Honor Book" in case you get lost.

James Anthony Ellis - a writer and filmmaker living in San Diego - is the author of "The Honor Book" and the Communications Director of the international men's organization MDI (Mentor, Discover, Inspire). His website is LegacyProductions.org.