Dissatisfaction: The Ultimate Cause of All Suffering!

Dec. 12, 2010 - PRLog -- The one word that is considered to be the ultimate cause of all human suffering is “DISSATISFACTION,” and not until people know what’s the source of their dissatisfaction and how to deal with it in an impassionate and disinterested way, then the suffering will continue, according to Dr. Robert Puff, a Clinical Psychologist, and co-host of the online The Holistic Success Show at http://www.HolisticHealth.TV.
 
“Being human, we are always going to experience that thing called PAIN,” says Dr. Puff. “You might now be out of work, going through a love loss, a painful divorce, or suffering with a debilitating illness. That’s always going to be a fact of life. But the good thing is that we do have a choice when these painful events do occur. We can do everything that’s within our power to work things out or try to adjust to the situation just to make our life pain-free or we continue to suffer in silence.”

In developing his argument, Dr. Puff noted that people are generally dissatisfied when their expectations are not met and not knowing how to effectively deal with the source of “dissatisfaction.” As a result, he says that many go through their entire life silently suffering from their source of dissatisfaction. “Even though some have done all they can to make life more bearable, the situation remains without them ever thinking of accepting the situation as is, and move on with their life,” he says.

He believes, however, that it is not necessarily the painful that causes our suffering. What does, he argues, is the fact that we are never content with what is happening or has happened in our lives, and so, we are desperate to make things different… and it is this wanting to make things different that’s actually causing us to suffer.

“I have known couples who have gone through divorces, and 20, 30 years later, they are still bitter and angry with each other over what had led to their separation,” explains Dr. Puff. “They just want to hold this resentment, instead of saying, ‘you know what, I had expected to spend my entire life with this person, but that didn’t happen. So, I’ve got to take my licks and move on’.”

So, according to Dr. Puff, the number-one key to suffering is simply DISSATISFACTION. However, he points to the fact that the converse is also true. “If you say that you have done everything within your power to fix a particularly troubling situation, and let’s say, you have spoken to the best medical people and have gone through a series of counseling, then there comes a time when you’ll have to accept the reality that this thing isn’t going to be fixed at all,” argues Dr. Puff. “You might have even argued that this is a test from God, and you have got to just accept it as is and move on with living your life the best way you know how. The pain of dissatisfaction should never be allowed to rob us of living a beautiful and happy life.”

Dr. Puff’s final word is that we can indeed live a beautiful life despite the dissatisfactions in our lives. He concludes: “All we’ve to do is to accept what is, after we have done everything within our power to rectify it, and be satisfied to go on to finding peace with ourselves and the world.”

Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D. is a meditation expert, international speaker and the creator of the weekly Meditation For Health Podcast, available at http://www.MeditationForHealthPodcast.com. He also co-hosts, with Elizabeth Cappellettti, M.A., the weekly TV and web-show entitled The Holistic Success Show, which can be seen at http://www.HolisticHealth.TV. Both the podcast and show are free for listening and viewing worldwide.  If you would like to contact Dr. Puff, his e-mail address is DrPuff@cox.net