Win Back Your Ex Boyfriend By Delving Into The Male Psyche

Jan. 20, 2014 - PRLog -- You want to win back your ex boyfriend and you don't know where to start. The first thing that you need to realise is that men and women are different, they think differently and what one person wants from a relationship, the other may not view as important. This is why there is a lot of conflict in relationships. You need to understand the relationship differences to be able to put things right.

The trouble is that you will always see things from your perspective and try to fix things accordingly. Then you wonder why it have no impact on your ex boyfriend. You need to take a step back and start looking at things from his point of view. When you are able to get inside his head and see what he sees you will be in a much better position to make positive changes and make him want you again.

How He Sees Your Behaviour After The Break Up

One of the most important things that you can do now is to take an honest look at how you have been behaving after your break up. You may think that you have been doing nothing wrong and that your behaviour is justified. He will however see things very differently.

When a relationship ends emotions will be at an all time high. When this happens we have a tendency to do and say things that we wouldn't normally do. This is normal and not something that you should beat yourself up about, you are human after all and it would be strange if you felt nothing after your split.

Saying this, you do have to realise what kind of impact that your behaviour has on your ex boyfriend, or at the very least how he views it. We never really do this because the pain is so raw and we only see what the break up has done to us and how it has made us feel. This is why it is so important to take a step back and look at things through fresh eyes and how he might see it. I am going to give you his perspective on your behaviour now, so look at how it might conflict with your own views.

When You Text Him And Call Him After The Break Up - The Way He Sees It

You might think that you are innocently keeping in touch with him and that you have every right to, maybe you both agreed to be friends. You have to realise that there is a cooling off period when you break up when you shouldn't be communicating with him at all. Feelings are too fraught and you both need time to process what has just happened. He will just want space after the split and not want to hear from you constantly.

Things have changed between you and you cannot just expect to contact eachother the way you did when you were together. There are now unspoken boundaries that you have to abide by, otherwise you run the risk of appearing like a bunny boiler who is unable to let go.

He will be expecting to hear from you after the break up, you don't want to behave in a predictable manner because then he thinks that he has you where he wants you, that he can have you back any time that he wants. Constant texting and asking him questions will only put him off you because he knows that you are still his. He doesn't have to put up a fight for you and therefore he will lose some respect for you. You see, men like the thrill of the chase and for women to have an air of mystery about them. When you give him everything on a plate he will soon get bored and want more of a challenge.

Another negative aspect of contacting him is that he will start to see you as needy and desperate. This is extremely unattractive and it will only confirm in his mind that the break up was a good idea. The last thing that he wants is for his ex girlfriend to check up on him and want to know what he is up to. You are not in a relationship anymore so you have to let go to a certain extent.

No one is saying that it is easy to stop contacting your ex boyfriend in the days following your split. All you want to do is speak to him and maintain some kind of relationship. It will take a lot of willpower and restraint on your part, but it is worth it when your ex boyfriend starts to see you in a positive light again. He needs to respect you before he wants you, so you need to lay the groundwork to make this possible. That means staying away.

Your Next Steps - Do You Want Him Back?

You have only started to scrape at the surface of how the male mind works. There is so much more that you need to understand about these complicated creatures, especially how they view you and your behaviour post break up. You need to be aware of how your actions impact upon him. You need him to see you positively if you want him back after all. The link below lays out mistakes that you should be avoiding at all costs, take these to heart and stay clear!
http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2012/07/mistakes-girls-make-after-the-break-up

Find Out If He Still Likes You

You are probably a little curious about how he feels about you after the break up. You can't go right up and ask him because you will end up looking needy and you run the risk of getting hurt again. The link below details the signs that your ex boyfriend still likes you, find out what they are so that you know where you stand with him.
http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2012/03/does-he-still-like-me-how-to-find-out

Get Him Back Using Facebook

Facebook is often an overlooked tool in getting your ex boyfriend back. This is a mistake as it can really help your chances if you know how to use it properly. There are things that you can say and do on Facebook to reel your ex boyfriend back in and make him crave you again. Find out what they are by clicking the link below.
http://knowhowtogetyourexback.com/2012/06/using-facebook-to-make-your-ex-want-you-back-clever-techniques