New Relationship Strategies Help Passive Aggressive Couples Avoid Marriage Disaster

Aug. 19, 2011 - PRLog -- Neil Warner of Creative Conflict Resolutions has been vocal on his blogs lately about what wives and families can gain from continuing to demand affection and respect inside their marriage, even when the going gets tough. This a very different attitude from many psychologists today, who feel that the Western ideology of “going it alone” is always better for one’s emotional health.

“Sometimes, women on our Passive Aggressive Husband blog tell us that they don’t think it’s worth it to stay with a PA man. They are worn out, despondent and terribly sad because of the impact of his behavior on their marriage,” says Warner.

Warner’s new system developed exclusively for passive aggressive men, called the “Six-Step System to Stop Your Passive Aggression and Save Your Marriage,” offers breakthrough strategies for healing this toxic behavior at the source. However, he says, he needs wives to help out by showing their husbands that a change needs to occur and that this change can happen with a specific resource.

“The first step in our system - the Passive Aggressive Test - is free and open to anyone because we want men to feel that they have an objective resource to go to. It’s been very popular, but we know there are other families out there still suffering. All wives need to do at this point is keep telling their husbands exactly where to look. The rest of it falls into place without the wives really needing to do anything.”

Creative Conflict Resolutions is encouraging women married to passive aggressive men to look past the “dump him and move on” option. “Unless he is physically or mentally abusive, there is no reason to think that the marriage can’t revert back to normal after that passive aggressive behavior has been modified,” says Warner.

In a recent letter to their clients, Creative Conflict Resolutions made a list of benefits women can gain from helping their husbands overcome passive aggression:

“Avoiding divorce - severing his connection to passive aggression ensures that probably you can avoid severing the marriage. His leaving his toxic behaviors behind means that they don’t prevent the marriage from becoming all it can be.

Good father - a good father is not passive aggressive. As his passive aggression heals, your husband will be better equipped to provide your children with the love, care and respect they deserve. He will learn that avoiding them, making fun of them, or abusing them emotionally prevents him from bonding with his children. He will also learn that this bond is important and that he can feel proud to be a father!

Emotional support - passive aggression thrives on denying emotional support. With those behaviors left behind, your husband can realize that giving you his emotional support is not a bad thing. Part of our system focuses on helping him learn that emotions don’t have to be seen as weakening or overwhelming him (something he learned from his parents/caregivers).

A real marriage - one that provides you both with the emotional environment required to give and receive real love and compassion. Both of you are responsible adults who can behave in an adult way, handling conflict in a timely manner, learning more about each other and growing toward your mutual health.”

In Western culture, there is a widespread notion that in the end, it’s each person for him/herself. Creative Conflict Resolutions is promoting the opposite idea, suggesting that perhaps an individualistic mind-set is in fact causing more problems than it heals. “No matter how deep-set the behavioral problem,” says Warner, “thinking in terms of the family bond and not in individual terms can help both the victim and the passive aggressive person to heal and reach resolution. We often don’t think about this marriage bond as a value in the West. We tend to think that the most successful people are those that don’t seem to need anybody but themselves.”

The relationship experts at Creative Conflict Resolutions are glad to announce that the entire six-step system is now available through their website. They still encourage men to take the free Passive Aggressive Test first at http://passiveaggressivetest.com/passive-aggressive-test/ (even if they’ve been diagnosed with passive aggression before).

For those men who’ve taken the test and are ready to start healing, Warner states that the entire system is now ready at http://passiveaggressivetest.com/StopPANow.

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