What I know about Chris Brown or Rihanna you could fit on the end of a pin and have room to spare but there are things I know about relationships and kindness and compassion that requires me to know nothing about either of them. I consume news, all news, and so I am aware of their break up and the altercation that ensued and how he was rightfully ostracized by his peers, but seemingly Chris Brown is a man who neither appreciates his talent, can learn from his past nor shows any willingness to mature and move on with his life.
Basically Chris Brown made an appearance on ABC’s Good Morning America and during an interview with anchor Robin Roberts, Brown’s past indiscretions were discussed, as anyone would expect, and in an effort to discuss recent news that the restraining order that Brown had placed on him to stay away from Rihanna was “relaxed”. The exchange should have been simple, but Brown apparently didn’t want to discuss it and in a Media Training moment he could have just simply said that he was glad it was finally being resolved, and maybe that he had some regret over the situation to begin with, I mean he did hit her after all, so some remorse and a quick, positive response and it’s over, right?
Not for Chris Brown. He defaulted to his promotion of his new album, emphasizing that was why he was there and that was his focus, and he did that twice in the interview and then he performed a song. Ok, no big deal until…
After he performed he stormed off the set, a ruckus was overheard and security was called when a loud noise was heard from his dressing room where it was discovered that a window was broken, glass rained to the ground outside the building and Brown was a no show at the next appointment at ABC disappearing never to be seen again in their building.
Now there is no proof that he broke the window, but someone did. It’s clear in the interview I posted he was getting a little testy about the questioning, and it’s clear that as he stormed off the set after performing that he was not happy with the way it went.
Media Tony says, hey Chris, be dignified. You beat a popular and beautiful woman, which is wrong no matter what or who she is. Your behavior is deplorable toward woman and you have had to deal with a plethora of legal issues since this happened and even after court ordered anger management classes it seems clear to me that you have not learned how to process your feelings. It’s time to grow up dude.
There is no excuse for what he did to get him in trouble to begin with. No matter his celebrity status he should feel fortunate that a judge gave him an opportunity to right this wrong. He has had two years or make amends and according to accounts I read this morning many felt that he was making progress and acting more mature and behaving in a manner that is acceptable, so why let a question that a journalist is sure to ask bother you to the degree that you are now suspect again as a healthy, agreeable adult?
Chris Brown has talent I’m told and he obviously has money. He has opportunity and privilege many never will. He has made profound mistakes and has to live with them but he also needs to make the choice to live with them maturely and honestly. Just deal with it. Answer the questions with some humility, and move on.
I’m bothered by the simplicity of how easy this problem is to solve and disturbed that his inability to deal with his reality is tolerated by an entertainment consuming audience that allows him to be rewarded by buying his music and attending his concerts. He has not learned his lesson and should not be let off the hook for this behavior.
Chris, some simple advice from a guy that wants all people to live happy, healthy, purposeful lives: get help, make amends, stop thinking that just because you legally did what was required of you that this is done and over with because it will always be a stain on your life. But Chris, if you learn to help yourself that will help others. Living as if you are sorry is much harder than saying you are sorry. Expressing your frustration through anger and violence tells me and many others that you believe there should be different rules for you and there should not.
Part of being a celebrity is dealing with the public ridicule you ask for, as you have. It also comes with great reward, so what do you want? Make that choice wisely or you will end up being that guy that many will say “what a shame” if they aren’t already. I know I am but what do I know?
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As the host of his own nationally syndicated radio programs for 15 years, Tony has interviewed over 25,000 guests and appeared as a guest on over 800 radio and national television shows. He founded of his own public relations firm and he went on to author two books and became a “go to” authority on a myriad of issues from weight loss to self empowerment;