“Helicopter parents have received a bad rap, but the reality is, some level of parental involvement is necessary for a student’s successful transition to college,” says Dr. Adam Troy, director of research for the Enrollment & Retention Services Division of EducationDynamics. “The keys to a successful college transition for the entire family include encouraging self-reliance, engaging in intentional communication and embracing change.”
To help embrace parents in the process, schools are developing online communities and social networks specifically for parents, such as EducationDynamics’
University of Alabama uses EducationDynamics’
1. Give Your Child a Voice: If your child has a college-centered question or concern, encourage him/her to make the call to the appropriate person at their university. Empowering your child to speak on his or her own behalf builds confidence and fosters independence.
2. Create Problem Solvers: Let your child be the principle problem solver when faced with challenges. You can continue to provide guidance, but your child needs to be able to negotiate the challenges of daily life. College is a good time to practice this skill.
3. Be Clear about Expectations:
4. Review Basic Money and Time Management Skills: Teach your child about time and money management. Place the responsibility on your child to manage his or her bank accounts and payment deadlines. Having to pay a late fee can be an inexpensive lesson with minimal consequences that can teach your child responsibility.
5. Revisit Touchy Conversations:
6. Expect Drama: When drama ensues, consider the possibility that the situation may not be as bad as it sounds. Instead of calling in the cavalry, listen and empathize. Give your child someone safe to talk to without jumping in to offer solutions that "save the day."
7. Embrace Change: Remember that your child’s collegiate independence is a credit to you, not a personal affront. The reality is that your child does not need you less−just in a different way.
8. Recognize Your Transition: A large majority of “helicopter parent” behavior stems from a lack of recognition that parents are going through their own transition. Recognize that your life is going to be different and you may face difficult days due to the loss of your previous routine. Prepare for the transition; build up your support system and plan activities for yourself.
9. Know Your Resources: Find ways to be productively involved in the college community through parent associations or online parent programs provided by your child’s school. Colleges do not want to cut you off from your child; they just want you to assume a support role to help ensure your child’s success.
10. Remember the Parent Honor Code: The parent honor code should be a mantra for any parent of a college-bound teen. “On my honor, I will try, to allow my child to be an adult, even if it stinks for me.”
“One of the most powerful tools available to universities is the Web. Many transitional challenges can be overcome with information, guidance and communication, which a social network can provide,” says Dr. Jones. “Traditional communications vehicles such as parent newsletters and email blast campaigns typically result in low participation rates. Whereas parent participation in FYRe regularly exceeds 70 percent and results in higher student retention rates.”
For more information about parent communication tools or other EducationDynamics enrollment and retention products, contact Tracy Howe at 201.377.3318.
EducationDynamics, a portfolio company of Halyard Capital, is the leading marketing and information services company dedicated to helping higher education institutions find, enroll and retain students. Its content-rich and highly visible education websites, including EarnMyDegree.com, eLearners.com, GradSchools.com, StudyAbroad.com, and its more than 50 special interest microsites, make EducationDynamics the premier provider of qualified prospective students for colleges and universities. In addition, the company offers a full suite of Web-delivered services proven to drive enrollment growth and reduce student attrition. For more information, visit http://www.educationdynamics.com.