Conflict Resolution - Secrets to Successfully Conquer Conflicts

Dec. 16, 2007 - PRLog -- Conflict occurs everywhere people are involved - at home, at work, at the store, etc. How can we conquer conflict and peaceably mediate disputes to get what we want, while not offending people? Love, liberation, and reconciliation can be achieved through mediation.

Do we have to go to court over everything nowadays? Do we not have brains to work things out ourselves? Must we hold grudges for a lifetime? Isn't there a better way?

As a transformative mediator resolving disputes of all kind, Paul F. Davis founder of the award winning websites www.CreativeCommunications.TV and www.PaulFDavis.com, realizes going to court is becoming increasingly costly and often futile. Parties and individuals in conflict are therefore turning to alternative methods of dispute resolution - mediation and arbitration being two options.

Ultimately people must learn to negotiate their way from confrontation to cooperation.

Here are some helpful Secrets to Successfully Conquer Conflicts:

1. Consider conflict an opportunity not a curse.

Conflict is a character building and interpersonal communications improvement opportunity. We all have blind spots, preconceived ideas, personal peculiarities and tendencies that can make us hard to deal with at times. Being able to identify other character types and communication styles is beneficial for us, though it may not always be easy to endure at first.

Learn to respond to conflict naturally and with openness. Keep your ears and heart open to receive. In so doing you will disarm the aggressor and show yourself to be a reasonable human being. To do otherwise will only further antagonize the angered party and increase aggression and the erecting of walls between you. Sometimes as you listen and ask for more information as to the true source of the conflict you will find perhaps that what seemed to be the initial problem was merely superficial as you dig deeper into the real underlying problem eating at the person. In such situations conflict becomes a learning experience for both of you.

2. Respect and don't reject people regardless of your disagreement.

Separate the person from the behavior. Remember we all come from different backgrounds, upbringings and environments that have shaped and molded us to be who we are today. We are all continually changing and evolving. Give people grace to grow as they come to a greater level of self-awareness. As you do and they discover how gracious you've been to them, they will become the most loyal employees you will ever have. This is true empowerment.

Dream-Maker Inc. has witnessed this firsthand as Paul F. Davis the founder and president has given people freedom to fail and make mistakes in their journey to greatness. Read the many wonderful testimonials at www.PaulFDavis.com

3. Acknowledge and confess any contributory negligence.

Conflict always begins within. It is often bred within our own hearts and minds as we prematurely judge, falsely assume, erroneously jump to conclusions, and allow ourselves to become overly invested in our individual interests. Purity of heart and mind is obtained when we examine ourselves first before scrutinizing somebody else. We must judge ourselves first. We commonly however judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their actions. This is to say we don't typically use fair weights, standards and measures when we judge others.

If we would be brutally honest with ourselves we would find that in every conflict we have somehow contributed to it be through what we have said, done or left unsaid and undone. Neglecting to affirm your employees after work well done is as negligent behavior as them forgetting to get the work done. We all hunger for recognition and praise. Management must honor and recognize people for their performance. If we don't recognize, someone else will. To avoid employee departures and high turnover, we must honor and acknowledge their efforts.

Sometimes in the midst of all our efforts to be increasingly productive and profitable, we are not personable and can be offensive to one another. Recognize such times and apologize for being that way. By acknowledging and apologizing wrong doing you as the executive in charge are taking responsibility and encouraging everyone to be responsible. Confession brings freedom. Suddenly you will find many people begin to humble themselves and confess their own faults. It won't be long before everyone is reconciled and bonding again. Rest assured when this happens employee morale and productivity will skyrocket. Where people feel well they work well.

4. Step into greatness by overcoming evil with good

Forgive and extend a chance to be reconciled. After war I">World War I the United States proved to be a society with enormous confidence in its achievements and in its future wherewith it mustered the dedication and the resources to strive for a world order in which defeated enemies would be conciliated, stricken allies restored, and adversaries converted. Because the United States took the higher ground endeavoring to reconcile, restore and convert its enemies after defeating them, it is today a world super power.

The stronger you are, the more gentle you can afford to be. Gentleness is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of true strength. When you overcome evil with good, it disarms the wrongdoer to be transformed after which they are more likely to live up to your ideals and level of integrity.



Paul F. Davis is a highly sought after worldwide professional speaker who has touched over 50 countries, more than 50 islands, and 6 continents empowering people throughout the earth to live their dreams!

Davis has written and published 12 books, two of which have been nominated for a Pulitzer Prize.

Poems That Propel The Planet - Love, Liberation, & Reconciliation is Paul's highly praised 500 page verse compilation, which is full of timely and inspiring poems to captivate the heart of princesses, patriots, and politicians.

Paul's organization Dream-Maker Inc. builds dreams, transcends limitations, & reconciles nations.

Academically outstanding Paul was trained in transformative mediation & conflict resolution at Hofstra Law School by Dr. Baruch Bush who created the mediation methodology used by the U.S. Postal Service when resolving employee disputes.

Paul was trained in Strategic Negotiations & Deal-Making at Harvard Business School and the University of Washington. Paul's training in interviews and advanced interrogation from Reid & Associates (founders of the polygraph), combined with him being a master practitioner in NLP, gives Paul an outstanding ability to read people and discern deception. These disciplines combined make Paul a phenomenal Purpose Coach able to transform individuals and organizations.

Contact Paul to speak, negotiate on your behalf, mediate a dispute, or obtain executive purpose coaching.

RevivingNations@gmail.com

407-284-1705

www.PaulFDavis.com

www.CreativeCommunications.TV



Other noteworthy accomplishments of Davis:

- Paul worked at Ground Zero in New York City the first week of 9/11, two stops from Brooklyn Heights where Paul used to live.

- Paul helped a Muslim young man rebuild his home at the tsunami epicenter in Indonesia and spoke to tribal groups in Wamena who are "naked and not ashamed."

- Paul comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda and Burundi where 1.2 million people were slaughtered.

- Paul spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war for independence before the UN recognized the new nation.

- Paul addressed University students and monks in Myanmar working together to achieve democracy.

- Paul journeyed to Pakistan twice since 9/11 to speak to large audiences about peace, non-violence, and reconciliation.


RevivingNations@gmail.com

www.PaulFDavis.com

www.CreativeCommunications.TV

(407) 284-1705

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Creative Communications provides negotiation, mediation, conflict resolution, interrogation, and executive coaching to facilitate transformation for individuals and organizations.

Paul Davis worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; addressed leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students in Myanmar; spoke throughout India, China, Pakistan, & parts of Africa where they've never seen a white man.

Website: www.PaulFDavis.com