Insecurity- Is It Him/Her Or Is It Me?

 
 
Insecurity
Insecurity
HUNTINGTON, N.Y. - Oct. 25, 2022 - PRLog -- Sometimes you just can't tell. Is it your old insecurity acting up again, or did you pick another emotionally unavailable lover? If the relationship doesn't work out, you'll say you should have trusted your gut.

But wait a minute … you've already figured out that you can't trust your gut because you'd feel insecure at the beginning of ANY relationship especially if you really like the person. We're all like that. Being strongly attracted to someone creates high emotional stakes and makes us crave constant reassurance.

So if you can't go by your gut, how can you tell? When you can't come up with a clear answer, then you're asking the wrong question. The better question is: "How can I hold myself in such a way that I can let this relationship play itself out to see what its potential really is?"

To this question, there IS an answer. To remain self-possessed, you must take 100% responsibility for your own emotional security instead of laying this need at your lover's feet. It is not his (or her) responsibility to make you feel secure. It is YOUR responsibility. Remind yourself frequently: ONLY YOU can make yourself secure. Don't lay it on your lover. ONLY YOU can develop emotional self-reliance. It's nobody else's job but YOURS.

Don't expect to accomplish this task perfectly. You become self-assured imperfectly – the way all of us humans accomplish this type of thing. Even making a small improvement can make all the difference in your love life.

This change (which is really a seismic shift) begins with accepting the challenge: Feeling insecure with your lover places you exactly where you need to be to work on what you need to work on. Use it as an opportunity to increase self-assurance.

Here's how it works. The more you're attracted to someone, the higher the stakes. The higher the stakes, the greater the insecurity. The greater the insecurity, the harder to accomplish emotional self-assurance. The harder to accomplish, the more emotional strength you gain from the effort.

There are hands-on exercises that absolutely make it possible for you to give yourSELF emotional security – especially when you're freaking out and panicking over a new relationship! Don't expect to become self-assured just by wanting it; you have to DO something. DOING means getting on the program and practicing exercises that strengthen your ability to give yourself assurance. Remember: You don't have to become perfect at it, just self-possessed ENOUGH to let the relationship be what it is, without losing yourself in the process. Make the more important thing your own growth.

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