True Client Story of Client in New Life Marbella Rehab Clinic
I am a love addict. It started during childhood. My mum never gave me what I needed. I think she tried to but for one reason or another, I never got what I needed. She was like Mother Mary by day and Satin by night.
What Happened in my Family of Origin? (https://www.focusonthefamily.ca/
My mum was not available. She was not responsive. I had no security. I learnt to trust no one. There are three types of attachment: secure (mum is there), anxious ambivalent (where the mother was inconsistent and not often available for the infant's needs thereby teaching the child that the world is not always going to meet their needs) and finally anxious-avoidant (the result of abusive or neglectful caregivers/parents)
Love addiction comes from either anxious-ambivalent or an anxious-avoidant childhood. I think I had both. I spent most of my childhood crying when I should have been laughing. But. I was not. Fucking parents.
What Age Did My Addiction Start?
The most important years are between 0-7. Attachment issues alter the way the brain develops. I have major abandonment issues. The receptors and hormones lead to deficiencies in brain chemistry, which can lead to addiction. This influences self-esteem, expectations of others, and how the person attracts other people and trusts other people. So if the first relationship I had is fucked up, this leads to a series of fucked up relationships. Sadly this is the way addiction works.
Hollywood also promotes the idea of meeting someone and falling in love. Well, that was the story when I was growing up, now Hollywood is pushing violence and same-sex relationships, the trans-humanism agenda. This has led me as a young adult to expect love to be all-consuming releasing high levels of dopamine. Of course, this never lasts. Which means I am always looking for another hit.
What Kind of Relationship Addicts Are There?
There are a huge amount of love addicts, relationship addicts (will stay even if the relationship is making them unhappy), narcissistic love addicts (use dominance, seduction and withholding to control their partners) and ambivalent love addicts.
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