The Ledward Matrix - **from The Self Code by Robert Ledward**
Problems with bullying and social anxiety are closely related to this issue. Many children, even those who do not suffer from low self-esteem, live in an environment of isolation and often have problems with socialization. Video games and smartphones tend to replace personal relationships by creating a virtual reality with troubling consequences.
Even in adulthood, the situation may not improve. Adults often tend to experience problems and stress related to a lack of self-confidence.
Our hectic and competitive lifestyle does nothing to help solve the problem. We are increasingly forced to confront others, both in our professional and private lives, prompted by the bombardment of the media. Our self-esteem consequently suffers and makes us increasingly dependent on what others think of us.
In The Self Code, Ledward has analyzed in depth the underlying dynamics of self-esteem, developing an original matrix within which we can position ourselves. The first and most important dimension considered is that of self-confidence. This derives from our self-assessment of what we feel now in relation to the level we would like to achieve. An analysis of this dimension corresponds to the definition of William James, who linked it to the relationship between the real self and the ideal self.
The second dimension considered by the Ledward matrix concerns the social aspect: the fact that our dependence on the judgment of others influences the level of our self-esteem. We could, for example, suffer from low self-esteem both because we are overly dependent on the judgment of others, needing the security provided by their external approval, and because we actually judge ourselves as not up to par. Clearly, the tools to be used and the variables on which we need to act will be different.
Independent of our individual positioning on the matrix, and our different circumstances, it becomes increasingly urgent to work to increase our self-esteem so we can improve our lives and our relationships.
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