In Trying Times "Try I Don't Mindfulness," Says the Best-Selling Author of Stinkin' Thinkin'
According to Best-Selling Author, Dr. Gary S. Goodman: "Mindfulness is useful, but incomplete." He believes we need "I don't mindfulness."
Derived from Eastern philosophy, it discourages us from wastefully ruminating over the past and needlessly projecting ourselves into the future.
But according to the best-selling author of Stinkin' Thinkin', Dr. Gary S. Goodman:
"Mindfulness is useful, but incomplete."
Goodman was on his way to earning his Black Belt when a sparring partner clocked him in the jaw. Instead of reflexively increasing his speed and gradient of power, Goodman laughed.
When he couldn't close his mouth to chew, it wasn't so funny, but he says, "My response was right."
The Stoic philosophers, Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius advance Goodman's notion. Epictetus said:
"People are not disturbed by things, but by the view they take of them."
The modern apostle of Stoicism, who developed a therapeutic model to make it exceedingly practical, was Dr. Albert Ellis, with whom Goodman studied.
Ellis said the emotions work like A-B-C.
At A, we have an Activating Event. Goodman's opponent hit him.
At B, we have a Belief System. This contains everything that Goodman believed about being hit. If he believed the strike was intentional, he might have told himself, "That's terrible and that guy should be severely punished for it!"
At C, we have a Consequence, that arises from A + B. "He tried to hurt me. That's unfair and awful and I'm going to hit him back, HARDER!"
That's not what happened, because Goodman's beliefs included: "Accidents happen" and the dojo trained him to "expect to be hit in a fight."
Goodman says carefully examine your beliefs. If you tell yourself, "It's awful whenever people do this," you're setting yourself up for extremely negative emotional consequences.
Substitute, "I find it mildly uncomfortable when someone does X, but this feeling passes quickly."
A famous Indian master was asked why he was so tranquil: "My secret is I don't mind what happens," he responded.
See: Goodman's book and audio program: Stinkin' Thinkin': 37 Mental Mistakes, False Beliefs & Superstitions That Can Ruin Your Career & Your Life at Amazon and at Audible.com:
Goodman can be reached directly about his career coaching, corporate consulting, and keynote speaking at email@example.com or at (818) 970-GARY (4279).
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