4 Questions To Ask Yourself in 2020

ORLANDO, Fla. - Dec. 8, 2019 - PRLog -- Have you ever found yourself leaping into action without considering what results you want? If so, you're not alone. Many leaders tend to act first and ask questions later. Leaders who make time to pause before jumping into a situation begin to create the balance between knowing what to say, what to do, and how to be.

The Choose Yourself pursuit is about building self-management and self-direction. It helps you identify key goals, follow intentions, and proactively solve problems. Ask yourself these key questions when you want to proactively address an issue in the new year.

1.    What outcome do I want in this situation?  – Thinking with the end in mind is the intention for this question.

2.    What am I willing to accept, not accept, or negotiate?  –  Being clear about the boundaries you're willing to work within will limit your autopilot responses.

3.    What would be the impact of my choices?  You would want to consider both rational and emotional impact for you, the other person, or the team?

4.    How do I want (my employee, spouse, friend, etc.) to feel?  The hardest feelings are those that you imagine as unsafe and our emotional brain will do anything to resist unsafe feelings.

The key is in understanding the difference between emotions that are useful and those that are not to make better decisions. These questions allow you to stay in that inquiry for just minutes (or longer). Let yourself feel the emotions and thoughts that come up. Then, use the power of choice to react to that emotional data.

It may be that new commitments are made, arrangements are negotiated, agreements to move on or stay are decided, or a new set of possibilities for creating a future are available to you from the power of choice.

Many leaders I coach are challenged every day. Those committed to increasing their emotional IQ make the conscious effort to process, evaluate, and assess what their emotions are uncovering to make the right choices. Sometimes it requires you to face your biggest challenges and toughest decisions. In the end, you will be a better leader and happier for it.

Your family, friends, employees, and colleagues will appreciate it too. It takes courage and commitment to first "know yourself, then choose yourself" on this journey to being smarter about feelings that lead to better choices and decisions.

Anita, "the Passionista," Torres is the CEO and founder of Passion Powered Leadership Coaching and Consulting. With over 20 years of training and development experience, Torres is a motivated Certified Executive Coach.

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