- July 22, 2019
-- It's not what you say, it's what you do and how you live your life that matters.
Model the behavior you want for your kids and the rest will take care of itself. Outside of family, I've coached (120 game schedule) travel baseball to mostly New York City inner city teenage boys from 1997 to 2011. I gave love, time, professional advice and encouraged a sense of self regulation to the members of Youth Service League and New York Grays Baseball organization;
while simultaneously demanding members to be accountable and have high expectations for themselves on and off the baseball field. Not all kids get to be professional baseball players, but all kids can grow up to be punctual, professional, respectful and hardworking employees or entrepreneurs. In 2012, I started working 7 days a week in an organic juice bar my family opened in my Park Slope Brooklyn neighborhood. Despite growing up in a single parent home, I've learned to express myself through writing and in key ways, the thought processes involved have filled the void created by my absent father and time constraints preventing me from coaching. I often write with the hopes of being a role model to other fatherless kids, young adults we find listening to music all throughout New York City, hanging out in malls, bars, posting on blogs, podcast and videos online. These individuals use services like Google and Youtube for easy access to endless advice from the likes of Instagram influencers with thousands followers or more. The pitfalls of this approach is qualifying the soundness and credentials of the advisors. Philosopher Baruch Spinoza (1632 - 1677) is famous for saying, "Be not astonished at new ideas; for it is well known to you that a thing does not therefore cease to be true because it is not accepted by many." I worry well intentioned advice are often counterproductive when they project the advisor's shortcomings.
Despite the best of intentions, any advice has limitations regarding perception and enlightenment. How much you reveal to the person from whom advice is sought and the advisor's capacity to conceptualize, describe and communicate the best course of actions determine the usefulness of the advice. Continue reading........ http://stoopjuice.com/why-i-write.pdf