We Repeat What we Do Not Repair | Avoiding Negative Cycles In Your Life
We all know at least one person who seems to keep repeating negative cycles… We may have even been that person one too many times in our own lives… The symptoms of repeating negative life cycles are…
By: Dr. Jacki Jones
Gravitating to people who are wrong for us, only because they are familiar
Giving up too soon, before allowing the process to work
Strangely enough, these are familiar emotional patterns but they are glimpses of much deeper issues
Unresolved emotional baggage simply grows and grows, unresolved issues never go away, they always become bigger
Until eventually there is a melt down because the original problem was never fixed. It's time to stop making the same mistakes. It may be time for some changes in your life.
People who seek positive changes move forward differently. Positive changes look like this…
• Embrace the truth, even it if hurts. Let's face it, no one side is always right, however when we are mature enough to understand what part WE may have played in a negative outcome, we position ourselves to move past it in positive ways.
• Allow yourself time to heal. This is the best way to heal, yet it is also the hardest thing for people to embrace. Yes, it may be tempting to try and replace one person with another, in an effort to soothe an aching heart, but the long term effects are hurtful on so many levels and to everyone involved. The best way to move forward is always from a place of healing and wholeness, and not from a place of desperation or loneliness.
• Re-adjust your crown. This means telling yourself that you are still valuable, that you are still beautiful, that you still have positive contributions to make to the world, and that you are love and are lovable. Sometimes this is a point that we have to reinforce within ourselves, especially after disappointments.
Choices in life, and in love, can lead to multiple consequences, and when things don't work out, if we aren't careful we can end up spiraling down the wrong path in terms of the choices we've made.
And so we end up in the same familiar relationships, we end up mismatched with familiar folk who look good on the outside, but maybe themselves also damaged on the inside.
And the sad part about it all, is that attempts to justify the dysfunctional only masks the problem, it doesn't resolve the real issues.
The truth of the matter is this…We repeat what we don't repair and lessons unlearned get repeated. Need help? Schedule your breakthru coaching experience at http://www.drjackijones.com
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