How Youth Coaches Can Stop Bullying and Hazing
Knowing the initial signs of harassment allows coaches the opportunity of stopping it in its tracks
Just as dangerous is hazing – rituals that initiate players to the team in some way. The consequences of bullying and hazing are psychological and emotional confusion. Those offensive actions can depress the victims for a long time.
Hazing, bullying, and harassment of any sort have no place in sports, at any level. Youth sports coaches need to be able to recognize that what might seem like fun to some is offensive and hurtful to others. When coaches do nothing, things can escalate quickly. You must stop harassment at the initial sign of it no matter how innocuous it seems. Suggestions to stop harassment in its tracks.
Ø Never bully players, either. Players will follow a coach's lead, and if they see adults do it, they will act the same.
Ø Tell parents they should be careful of what they tell their children. With or without realizing it, some parents encourage behavior that leads to harassment. When parents give their child instructions like "Take no bull from anyone" and "Show them how tough you are," it may result in alarming incidents.
Ø Institute a no-harassment rule to everyone at the first parent gathering. Inform parents that any sign of threatening player-to-player behavior is unacceptable. You should advise parents to relay this message to their kids.
Ø Encourage team members to come to the coaches if another person bothers them in any way. A subtle sign of harassment is small talk when players are out of the coach's hearing range. Any report of players picking on others is worth investigating.
Ø Have a policy of keeping words to self, no swearing, and no offensive talk about body parts.
Ø Institute these guidelines:
· Hands-off others.
· No "cutting in line."
· No laughing at other players' play or skill level.
· No trash talking.
Ø Watch for and discourage cliques. Small groups may exclude others and be another subtle sign of player mistreatment.
Ø Watch for and disallow any signs of an initiation ritual, even when it seems like harmless behavior. Once players believe it's OK, initiations can lead to distasteful acts the next time.
Ø Talk to athletes whose demeanor changes to find out if anything is bothering them. Individual conversations are always necessary if you notice behavior changes.
Ø Show appreciation for all and talk to teams with consideration, too.
Ø Talk to the team often about the importance of valuing teammates and opposing teams.
Never dismiss offensive actions as kids just being kids.
Coaches must follow up on any accusations, even in cases where the accused is the child of a close friend, one of the best players, or a coach's child.
Stopping bullies and hazing at the lower levels will limit them at the upper levels.