When Your Child Requires Something More than Love and Attention
When a child takes a leak on the baby sibling, it is undoubtedly an expression of sibling rivalry.
Here, you need to strictly avoid punishing the toddler for these actions. If you will be harsh, that would give a message to the child that you are no longer connected to him.
Now, it's worth mentioning here that attention and love are the basic rights of your child. In case of rivalry, you would be paying attention to the older child but he just doesn't want the younger one to get that love and attention divided. So, he may not respond well to your efforts to tune him up emotionally.
This situation of your child can be referred to as 'leaking cup syndrome'. It means that your child is not responsive to the love and attention you are giving, and that he needs something more than this.
The reason for this demand by your older child is that he suspects that you love the baby more than him. And if you are not changing your attitude to make adjustments in this regard, your child might start collecting these small emotional instances in his behavioral backpack. So, recognizing the situation always remains the first step.
Bad news is that the feelings that your older child keeps collecting are going to come out sooner or later; and those reactions may be harder than you may expect. Peeing on the baby is just an expression that your older child shows about feeling being disconnected from his elders. So, you need to understand this big emotion and do something about it. Here is a guide on what you can do.
One big reason that aggressive children act out is that they fear for being locked up in the home. They fear for the dullness they may experience while living in the home. The best way to deal with these kids is to start roughhousing. This is how you can play with the kids in order to engage them in some tough physical activity in the name of fun. At the end, they will feel the unhappy part of their personality getting vanished.
Manage the meltdown
It's true that you do not want your child to go through the meltdown at all, it's something inevitable. So, you can manage or schedule that meltdown for some other time. For instance, the occurrence of a meltdown while you are shopping is what you can need to avoid at that time. You need to put everything on halt right at that time and attend your child at first priority in order to assure him that his concerns will be addressed at home. If he fails to comply, you can conclude your outdoor activity and head back to home.
Listen to your child carefully and think from his perspective to understand things in a better way.