The Language of Parenting Plans

Children in Between was created by distinguished psychologist Dr. Donald Gordon and proven to work.
By: legal
Spread the Word
Listed Under

* Parenting Class

* Legal

* Athens - Ohio - US

ATHENS, Ohio - July 8, 2017 - PRLog -- Most parents say they want to "win custody" of the kids. This suggests control - or possession - of the children is the goal. Instead, your goal should be to work out the best parenting plan for your children, so call it a parenting plan rather than a custody battle. The child may be in one Parent's home more than the other; refers to that person as the "primary residential parent," not as the "custodial parent." the other parent should be viewed as the "secondary residential parent," not someone who just has visitation rights. no caring and involved parent wants to just "visit" his or her kids.

In split parenting plans custody of the children is divided: one or more children may go to one parent, and the other child/children the other; boys often go to fathers and girls to mothers. However, this is rare in initial separation decrees, and it generally only happens when there are unusual circumstances. it may occur when a child is old enough to choose which parent they wish to live with (age 12 in some jurisdictions). Many people believe it is a bad idea to separate siblings, but there isn't enough good research to corroborate this.

In shared parenting, both parents share legal control of the children. Shared decision making does not mean shared time, which can vary from equal time (50/50) with each parent to 60/40 or even 65/35. With shared parenting, the children may live primarily with one parent but they may  spend more time with the other parent than is normal in a non-shared parenting arrangement. The parent with whom the child lives most is called the primary residential parent and the other is called the secondary residential parent.

In most areas, shared parenting is presumed to be the best plan for children. Judges must provide a strong reason if they wish to order some other arrangement; in some areas, judges have the authority to order shared parenting if they believe it would be best for the child, or if one parent requests it.

Many judges require parents to develop a parenting plan before granting a divorce. Conflict between the parents can be minimized by a written plan stating specific dates and times when each is in charge of the child; because everything is in writing, there is less need for parents to negotiate or argue. Adherence to the plan will increase trust between the parents and encourage them to cooperate in the future.

The Center for Online Divorce Education
Tags:Parenting Class
Location:Athens - Ohio - United States
Account Email Address Verified     Account Phone Number Verified     Disclaimer     Report Abuse

Like PRLog?
Click to Share