Rediscovering Home - Ps Ashish Raichur

Can any other success compensate for failure in the home? We look at the present state of things in our city and nation, and discover timeless truths that will help us recapture God's original design for marriage and family. Get ready to be changed!
By: All Peoples Church & World Outreach,Bangalore
 
BANGALORE, India - March 7, 2014 - PRLog -- The disintegration of the institution of marriage

General Facts About Divorce Trends in India:
* India still has one of the lowest divorce rates in the world, with about one in 1,000 marriages collapsing, according to recent studies.
* In a study of 1165 cases from four urban cities—Mumbai, Pune, Aurangabad and Nagpur — researchers found that most couples seeking divorce were educated, between 25 and 35 years of age, and childless.
* The maximum number of divorces is among call center employees, medical professionals and those in the technology sector.
* 85% called off their marriage within the first five years.
* Amicable separation within the first year of marriage has increased by 30 per cent since 2000.
* Contrary to what prevailed earlier, more women are initiating divorce proceedings.
* 60% divorce cases, according to one Allahabad-based family court lawyer, relate to trivial issues.

Live-in relationships

* November 2013: A Supreme Court bench headed by Justice K S Radhakrishnan stated that live-in relationships are “neither a crime nor a sin.”

Extra-Marital affairs

* whether by the husband or wife is becoming more and more prevalent.

Our City - Bangalore

* Bangalore is the Divorce Capital of India with at least 25 divorce cases filed every day.
* While 0.1% Indian marriages end in divorce , in Bangalore 3% married couples seek separation from their partners.
* Divorce is most prevalent between the age of 20-30.
[Source:  IOSR Journal Of Humanities And Social Science (JHSS), ISSN: 2279-0837, ISBN: 2279-0845. Volume 4, Issue 4 (Nov. - Dec. 2012), PP 06-09, www.Iosrjournals.Org]

Home under threat

Regardless of the causes, the home - marriage and family - are under threat.

Marriage and family are central to any society. If these breakdown, there will be a breakdown eventually of the moral fiber of society.

The trauma and pain of strife and divorce
While all marriages and home will encounter challenges in the form of misunderstandings and temporary quarrels - continued strife in the home, separation and divorce, cause a lot of emotional trauma and pain for all involved.

e.g. A crumpled 1000 Rs note, can still be ironed out and its value remains intact. But if the 1000 Rs. note is torn apart, it loses its value. You will have to take it to the Bank to see if they would be willing to replace it.

The cause for these problems

What is the cause for strife in the home, and for the breakdown of marriage and family?

While many external factors can be listed, at the root of it - the wickedness of man's heart.

The problem is deep within - in the very heart of man.

Matthew 15:18,19

Jeremiah 17:9

* selfishness - only looking at one's own interests, happiness, etc.
* lust - wanting to satisfy sexual passions outside of marriage
* dissatisfaction birthed either out of selfishness or lust
* personal addictions and bondages that destroy the home - alcohol, etc.
* anger, criticism, bitterness that results in violence, abuse

There is also the fact that there is demonic assault against the home. The thief comes to steal, kill and destroy marriages, families and homes.

What's the cure?
#1, We need  transformation of the heart,
#2, We need to be released from personal bondages, and
#3, We need empowering to love, forgive, and keep loving

We cannot do this on our own.

Human love is fragile.

It's not enough to trim the leaves and branches, because these will grow again. To get of rid of a tree we have to deal with the root. Similarly - we need transformation on the inside. All permanent change comes from within.

Understanding timeless truths concerning marriage and family

Three important Biblical truths

#1, marriage was designed by God and hence is a sacred institution

It was God who said:
Genesis 2:18
And the LORD God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him."

It was God Himself who performed the first wedding:
Genesis 2:21-24

It is God who stands as a witness to the marriage covenant. He looks for godly children. He declares that He hates divorce:
Malachi 2:14-16

Breaching God's institution dishonors God:
Hebrews 13:4  Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

#2, marriage is intended to mirror Christ's love

Ephesians 5:22-25

#3, the home is to be a place of quietness, confidence and rejoicing

Isaiah 32:18
Psalm 118:15
Proverbs 3:33
Proverbs 12:7

Becoming brand new, receiving freedom and the power to love

We cannot enjoy and experience God's best, by trying on our own.
Our own efforts will not suffice.

We need to come to the "author and finisher" of marriage and family to receive His work in our lives as individuals:

#1, We need  transformation of the heart,
He promises:
Ezekiel 36:26

What exists today between your hearts - the heart of you and your spouse: a WALL or a BRIDGE.
A WALL that prevents you from speaking, a wall that you cannot see across, a wall that isolates you, a wall that keeps you from sharing the feelings and longings of your heart.
Or a BRIDGE of love, a bridge of tenderness, of warmth and affection, a bridge of understanding that frees you to share your innermost thoughts and dreams.

#2, We need to be released from personal bondages, and
The Lord Jesus came to deal with the root of our personal bondages:
Matthew 3:10

John 8:36

#3, We need empowering to love, forgive, and keep loving
He sends His Holy Spirit into us to release godly virtues and empower us:
Galatians 5:22,23

The God who changes us will empower us to live and experience what He designed for marriage and family.

2 Corinthians 5:17

“Can any other success compensate for failure in the home?”

This morning, if you feel you need help with your marriage, your home - lets us come to the initiator and Perfecter of marriage and family.

He has the power to make all things new.

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