Life Coach Miami: 6 Steps To Transform Your Life Today!

MIAMI - Dec. 17, 2013 - PRLog -- The thought of change can be daunting to many people and cause them to run and hide.  Maybe not necessarily the actual thought of changing, rather taking action for a change to occur.  Often change inflicts fear and emotional turmoil leading to the feelings of withdrawal or anger.

Think about it, when was the last time someone asked you to change? How did it make you feel?

Where does change begin?

For some people change occurs when they see someone else making a change.  They need someone else to make a change more than changing themselves.  This is the first stage of change, a phase known as self-denial; pre-contemplation.  People that are experiencing this phase of change are in the early stages, basically are acting like victims.  These people will be quick to blame others for any and everything that may go wrong.  Often they are unable to control themselves and have strong desire to control others.

You may know people that are constantly placing blame on others and asking “why me?”  Individuals in the pre-contemplation stage want nothing to do with personal change and the word change is not in their vocabulary.

The second stage of change is known as “contemplation.”  People in this stage will acknowledge they should change, but they are only thinking of changing.  They may make statements such as “something is stopping me from changing” or “I don’t know how to change.”  Usually there is ambiguous feeling towards making a change, but not enough to jumpstart the action to change.  Good examples of the contemplation stage is someone who is all packed up and who have found a planned destination, but have not actually purchased a ticket.  One day they will actually make the trip, but who knows when.

What if it does not work? What will happen to me?

These are questions that an individual in the preparation stage will ask themselves.  When someone is ready to make a change, they focus less on the actual problem and put more efforts into finding the solution.  They have a heightened awareness towards changing, yet they are not implementing the change.  Also they will make small steps hoping for change, but not quite enough to produce changing results.

Over time when the desire for change is greater then staying in place, commitment to take action will occur.  An individual will make it an obligation to change the unwanted behavior and will start taking action steps towards the behavioral change.  Progress towards change does happen, but then it stops and becomes stagnant. Although the change has been ongoing, maybe there is a lack of encouragement or motivation from within and from the outside.  The action stage can quickly remain at a standstill without someone being there as a cheerleader.  Change will occur for those that can maintain the ongoing energy.

When the actual behavioral change has transformed, and you are past the initial burst of energy, the maintenance stage is required.  This is very important because if you do not maintain the change then it is possible that you could revert into your old, destructive habits.  I am sure you see this every day; someone has lost weight then gained it back not too much longer.  The maintenance stage is vital and must be strong in order to keep long lasting results.

When the behavioral change has become permanent and it is formed as habit, termination has been reached.  With positive reinforcement, effort and support individuals will manage to transition into the final phase of change.

Each of the stages of change requires different incentives and must be rewarded in order to not fall back into old habits.  When dealing with change, we must remember each person is different; therefore it is important to make sure you align incentives and rewards with each of those stages.  They will vary from person to person and change to change, says Taryn Allen, Miami Life Coach.

As defined above, below are the 6 stages of change:

1.     Pre-contemplation

2.     Contemplation

3.     Preparation

4.     Action

5.     Maintenance

6.     Termination

Let me ask you a few questions.  What changes are you avoiding in your life?  What is the cost of not making those changes?  Are you benefitting from not making the change?

In order for you to transform your life you have to be open and willing to change.  Sometimes change is required for you to get to the next step in your life or to achieve your pre-determined goals.   Try finding someone who will support you but not judge you.  Remember friends and family are not always the best option because they have an emotional connection with you.You should be the change that you want the world to see.

To learn more about our "Transform Your Life This Year" Coaching session, visit our website at http://www.miamilifecoach.org/ and to read more articles about the benefits of a Miami Life Coach go here http://www.miamilifecoach.org/what-are-the-benefits-of-co...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IAMaagRabi0