Why developing your child’s emotional intelligence is more important pushing them academically

Hothousing children is pointless as it does not lead to success in life.
By: Psychologymum
 
June 21, 2013 - PRLog -- Having a good set of exam results does open doors for many children but it is not the most important thing according to Faye Carlisle, author of ‘Psychology for Parent: Birth to teens (http://www.amazon.co.uk/Psychology-parents-Birth-teens-ebook/dp/B00CZVVKHE/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1370126413&sr=8-1&keywords=psychology+for+parents+birth+to+teens)’. ‘Research shows that people high in emotional intelligence are more successful in life than those who are purely academic’ says Carlisle. She explains that social skills and being able to regulate your emotions is more important than academic intelligence in the workplace and in romantic relationships. Parents who hothouse their children may lead them to be too focused on academic intelligence rather than helping them to develop important social skills. Children who are pushed too hard are also more likely to suffer from anxiety and depression.

So how can you teach your child emotional intelligence?

According to Carlisle, some children are born better able to control their emotions than others but that does not mean that you can’t improve your child’s ability to manage their emotions. You can help your child to understand that the way they think about things can change the way they feel. For example, if your child comes home from school and says that George would not play with them today, you might ask them why they think this was. Parents who frequently ask children to think about what other people might be thinking are able to develop their children’s understanding of how thoughts affect emotions.

In ‘Psychology for parents: Birth to teens’ Carlisle explains how to promote emotional intelligence, self-control and social skills in children. One technique, Carlisle suggests is teaching your child to recognise facial expressions and body language as these are important keys to understanding out what other people are feeling. You can show your child photos of people with different expressions and ask them to imagine what the people are thinking.

Children can also be taught relaxation techniques when they are feeing stressed or angry. You can teach them to lie down on their bed when they are angry and to count to ten or to take deep breaths and breathe out slowly. Another relaxation technique involves clenching all the muscles in the body and letting go. You can ask your child to focus on how their body feels after releasing their muscles.

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