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What to Say to Someone Who Has Lost Their Spouse
It is difficult to know what to do or say when someone has suffered a loss. You want to be there for them but you don’t want to say anything that might upset them.
By: The Good News Is
The good news is you want to tell them that you are there for them. Ask them if there is anything that they need. Bring meals so that they don’t have to cook. Call them up and just say hi, I was just thinking about you. Just be yourself, show them that you care. Don’t tell them time will heal their pain and that things will get better. They do not want to hear these things. Ask them if they want to go out and grab a bite to eat or a cup of coffee. Even if they say no at first, keep asking as I eventually decided to take my friends up on the invitation after saying no to them many times. http://www.prlog.org/
When my husband passed away I had a dear friend that called me every day and asked me if I needed anything. The good news is she told me that she loves me and that she is there for me. Those words comforted me and made me feel like there are people surrounding me that really care.
Another great thing is to offer to help with the kids. If they have young kids maybe offer to watch them. Anything that will help the person that is grieving is helpful. When you suffer such a devastating loss you need a support system around you. The good news is that sometimes it is the people that you least expect to be there for you are the ones that will be there for you the most. There were a few people that were just acquaintances before my husband died and they are some of closest friends now. They offered to help me set up automatic bill pay, set up a budget, and just organize myself. They stood by me while other close friends slipped away. http://twitter.com/
You really know who your true friends are when you suffer a devastating loss. I would not have gotten through this time without all of the support of my friends and family. The good news is I am very lucky to have such a large family. So many of them came from out of town to be there for me when my husband passed away.
Just be a good friend, be yourself. Show them that you care and tell them that you are there for them. Make life easier for them if you can. The good news is when going through the loss of a spouse as I have you find comfort in knowing that there are people that really care and that you are not alone. http://thegoodnewsis.com