Leaving the Bullies Behind: Channel Your Bad Experiences Into Something Amazing
Dr. Ronda Beaman explains how to turn bullying into something you can learn from.
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July 23, 2012 - PRLog -- So you're a victim of bullying parents. When you were small, your parents used you as a target for their inadequacies by making you feel small or holding you back from the goals that you wanted to accomplish. That bullying behavior probably did a number on your self-esteem. You might be angry. Or hurt. Or intimidated.
But here's a question: Do you really have to be a victim?
Bullying parents can beget kids who are apt to be bullied as adults or who themselves become bullies. Or perhaps most dangerously, they raise children whose doubts and frustrations turn inward and they end up becoming dependent on drugs, alcohol, or other dangerous or detrimental crutches to help escape the pain.
It's pretty easy to reach for that bottle or pop a few pills. It's much harder to turn your negative experiences into something fruitful and rewarding. But we all have a tremendous amount of respect for the people who do just that. You can be one of those people!
If you find yourself falling into the trap of substance abuse as a means to escape the pain that you suffered at the hands your bullying parents, then what you need is a behavioral remix. Sure, you have all these strong (and maybe repressed) feelings tumbling about. So why not let them all out and turn them into something inspirational?
Pick a dream, any dream. It may seem unattainablea t first, but if you start with small steps, you'll look back and see you're moving closer to your goal each day. Focus on the little accomplishments along the way, and celebrate your successes! You'll feel amazing when you realize that you've turned adversity into achievement.
The climb might not always be easy, but isn't that the thrill of the challenge? So don't look back! When you reach the summit of your dreams, you'll experience a high that's a thousand times better than anything you'll find in a bottle, because you achieved that high on your own, fueled by the winds of adversity, but focused on becoming bigger and better than your circumstances.