There is help for toxic relationships

July 12, 2012 - PRLog -- How can you tell if you are in a toxic relationship?  Here are some signs:

1. Your companion puts you down (verbally) in front of other people
2. While your companion states that they adore you, their behavior really does not back up their actions.
3. Your significant other is controlling – reading through your email or showing up to check on you.
4. Your companion attempts to make you reliant on them.
5. You have altered factors about your self to please them.

Toxic individuals make you feel sick simply being close to them.  So, why would anybody end up in a toxic relationship?  Why would any person want to be with somebody who makes them come to feel psychologically or physically harmed?

A toxic relationship has a pattern.  There’s a honeymoon period of time, followed by a setback, followed by a getting back together and the cycle begins once again.

When you initially meet a new companion, you are certainly in the honeymoon phase.  It is not until finally they have pulled you in even more down that you recognize that you are in a toxic relationship.  At that point, it is difficult to get out.

One explanation is that some people in toxic relationships mature in toxic homes.  As a consequence, they repeat the habits of their childhood without even understanding they are carrying it out.  They may not know much better.  Other people think they are not worthy of happiness.  Still some others discover that they take pleasure in taking care of individuals.

But the initial step in getting out and keeping yourself out of toxic relationships is to recognize that you do have alternatives.  Frequently individuals who remain in these couples have reduced self esteem or endure depression.  

Once you understand that you have alternatives, the next step is to begin standing up for your self.  In most toxic relationships, the toxic partner has trained you that it is all your problem.  Once you accept this,  it can be extremely challenging to either move apart from the relationship or established new boundaries that can repair the relationship.

For some individuals, doing work in therapy groups can assist them either get out of or change these awful relationships.  

The great news is that some individuals are able to crack the cycles of toxic relationships.  Some of them go away from the relationship and form new, better connections.

But other people are actually able to fix their relationship and remain in it.

The fact is that most relationships are capable of being restored.  Often it requires a little space.  In other instances, it requires counseling.  But if each partner makes an effort, it is feasible to replenish the ties in a healthy and balanced way.

The first factor you need to make a decision on is that the relationship must improve or you are prepared to move apart.  If you are not prepared to move away, you will in no way be capable of healing that which separates you.  

As soon as you have freed your self from the reliance that is at the center of a toxic relationship, you can begin to declare what you want from the relationship.  Do not nag the other individual.  Just state I need your support, I want your love, or I need your honest opinion.

If you do not get what you want, the other individual needs to know that you are ready to move on.

A healthy and balanced relationship is a two way road.  In a toxic relationship, the road is only proceeding one way.  You have the power to transform that, but you will have to take the power into your own person.

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