April 26, 2012
-- As older women continue to mature, ''age awareness" gradually becomes a dominating force in how they live, think, and behave. When making decisions, age is always a first consideration.
Age awareness self talk goes something like this: "I'm forty, perhaps I'm too old to do that" or, "I'm fifty and maybe I shouldn't be thinking about that at my age" (and subliminal culture messages support the erroneous belief). Age awareness is a destructive force; unfortunately, nobody talks about it -- most women don't even notice how or even if it is at work in their lives.
It's easy to spot a woman whose behavior and thinking are influenced by her awareness of her age: she's a blabber -- she tells her age at every opportunity whether it's called for or not. The interesting thing is, most blabbers blab because they have convinced themselves they are proud of their age or, on the other side, say they don't care how old they are, but they do care, or else they wouldn't be talking about their age.
Age awareness is destructive because every time a woman verbalizes her age she reinforces not only her own culturally induced stereotypical notions about what she is supposed to be like at "her age" but also allows traditional stereotypical thinking to reinforce her own beliefs about how she ought to be. An example of age awareness behavior: a woman meets a man and immediately blurts out her age because she wants to be honest and up front about her age. That bit of premature honesty can slam the door on any future interaction. It tells the man "Knowing my age is more important than getting to know me." Then the woman complains, "I can't find guys interested in a relationship."
Women are more than their chronological age; they are intelligence, heart, and spirit, and by focusing on the number of years lived they push to the back of their lives valuable qualities and untapped potential. They allow themselves to become victims of social and traditional expectations and restrictions that cause women to forfeit business and social growth and potential.
Women who don't want to spend their golden years cuddling with their cats keep their age in the age closet. They live as if they will live forever, unaware of the number of years they have lived. They make legal preparations for the end of life, and then live without the burden of age awareness getting in the way of living life to the fullest.
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