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Divorce and Abusive Relationships
Men as well as women can find themselves on the wrong end of an abusive relationship. But why do so many people stay is a relationship that is clearly doomed to fail? Good question, what's the answer?
These are all good questions. However, there are probably few men who will admit to the most probable answers. The most likely answers are in relation to fear and shame. In other words, it's more important what friends, family and other people in general will think and say. It could be that they will be perceived as being weak or weak minded. Another reason might be the shame and humiliation of not being able to stand up to a woman. In my own case it was the former but I am sure there are many who fall into the other category.
Believe it or not, many men, especially those who are being physically harmed in a relationship ar reluctant to call the police. I also made this mistake when I tried to leave for the final time. In most cases the police will tend to stick to the traditional gender expectations and arrest the male party on the word of the female. The night I spent in a prison cell because of this was not the most pleasant experience I can count in my memories.
There are many resources where this information can be found and help can be received. Personally, I wrote a book. It's a book written not just from the perspective of a relationship gone wrong. It's more of a journey into the spiritual realms where I sought comfort and guidance. It's also where I learned many valuable lessons along the way. The book has been likened to Richard Bach's "Jonathan Livingston Seagull" and "Illusions" in the way it has been formed.
The information is all relevant to living in the wrong or abusive relationship, as many people do and though this is a serious matter, there is a little humour in some of the more minor incidents. It's a good read if you enjoy reading about other people's shortcomings, misguided actions and fears. However, the reason for writing the book is to show others who find themselves in this situation that, there is a way out. The light is at the end of the tunnel if you face the fear and look for it.
Just released in Paperback Edition - Orion & The Wildcat is available at Amazon and Barnes & Noble.
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Paul W Sutherland is an author and speaker on the subjects of the metaphysical genre with a focus on the spiritual and inspirational slants.