Confidence matters, in relationships and especially in dating
onfidence matters. It matters because when someone has natural confidence people around them feel confident about them. In coaching singles for dating and in relationships, this is so true.
For example, if you approached by a person confident in themselves and their business it is easy to start trusting what they are saying. Imagine the difference between speaking to someone who is confident and someone who mumbles something about themselves while shuffling their feet and looking at the floor. It is hard to think anything but “they are not very sure about themselves, and if they aren't why should I be?”
Working with your strengths, really understanding all the fabulous things about you and then building on these is a great was to bring positivity into your life. When my clients start working towards their dreams from a position, these dreams start becoming a reality and the confidence which results is simply amazing.
My corporate hat likes to call this confidence management. In other words learning how to work with yourself to become naturally confident and self-assured. Part of this is becoming mindful of what erodes confidence and finding your ways to work around these.
After decades of people watching, people management, mentoring and coaching there are six areas which, to me, affect confidence.
Even when life seems rubbish, there are always great things going on and thinking about these more really pays does pay off. Asking for what you really want, means you'll probably start working towards getting it and that creates satisfaction.
Consider that what someone else thinks, does and says is a reflection of their perceptions, life experiences, values and beliefs. This is more about them, and less about you. It helps me, and a number of my clients, to hear feedback as a opportunity to grow, learn and adapt.
Is perfection really going to make that much difference? Isn't far more confidence building to simply do your absolute best, with what you have and how you feel at this point? Have a go, it really does make a difference.
Worry and fear are goals you don't want. It is often far more productive to focus on what you do want, put an action plan in place IF the worry or fear does happen and get on with the goal you really do want.
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Taking ownership for yourself, your decisions, your thoughts and your life creates a sense of empowerment. Empowerment promotes confidence and puts you in the driving seat.
Being in control of yourself and your life direction is a great confidence booster. Start by forgetting the outcomes you cannot possibly influence and work on the ones you can.
And so, there you have it. Six tips to managing your confidence and work towards natural self-confidence.
Above all have fun, have a laugh and love.
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