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Follow on Google News | Life Coaching Skills - Who Do You Work For?The rest is predictable. She made some excuses about seeing when she would be free and calling me back, and closed off the conversation, politely, but quickly.
By: Faith Sanchez Here's an example of mistakes I have made... I remember a time not so long ago when I got a phone call from a client that I had coached for a while, a few months before. The coaching had gone very well and had finished a few months earlier. She called me again to enquire about another service that I offer. At the time I was quiet on the work front and I was keen to work with her again. So my thoughts went immediately to the idea of earning fees from her. Mistake number one. I was focussed on my outcome, not hers. Allowing this thought changed the way I spoke to her that day. And therefore, even if she didn't seem to notice, it changed her experience of me. It was not going to be the outcome I wanted... As the conversation went on, she didn't notice my incongruence immediately. She was telling me about herself since we had last worked together, where she was at now and how she was feeling. In my mind I was deciding what was going to be the best for her, what we should do. While I was listening to her, I was thinking about a new area of NLP I had been learning and experimenting with, and wondering if it would be suitable for this client. Can you spot my mistake? I wasn't giving her my full attention! Worse, I was deciding already what to do, based on what I wanted to do! As she was finishing up telling me where she was in herself at that point in time, she told me what she wanted to do with me. And it wasn't what I was thinking about. I was jarred. I had a mismatch with her. And when I spoke, my mismatch was apparent in what I said and how I said it. I said, "so you want to do that, do you? That's great, I'd be happy to..." in a tone of voice that exposed my mismatch, and she heard it, loud and clear. Visit us online at : http://www.prospirity.com End
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