How Twitter can Ruin--or Enrich--Your Relationship

May 5, 2009 - PRLog -- Contact:
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For Immediate Release: May 5, 2009

How Twitter can Ruin--or Enrich--Your Relationship

   MALIBU, CALIF.-- Tweeting is communicating. And just like other forms of communication involving your mate, it can either enrich and strengthen your relationship or it can drive a wedge between the two of you, says Dr. Noelle Nelson, relationship expert and author of Your Man is Wonderful (Free Press, 2009).

   Nelson points out some of the pitfalls of "tweeting" all day, every day.

   Nothing left to say. "You’ve tweeted your every move, every thought, every little event throughout your day to your entire list of friends, including your mate. You come home from work, sit down to dinner with your spouse and realize there is nothing left to say," says Nelson. "You’ve already communicated everything that happened."

   Your mate is left out of the loop. "You tweet energetically to your friends, but not to your honey. You either figure he's not interested, or since he's your mate, not a friend, so why tweet to him?" notes Nelson. "The upshot is you’re leaving your honey out of the loop of your life, of what you’re up to. When you stop sharing your life with your mate, intimacy suffers."

   Spending your together time tweeting. "When you tweet while with your mate, you’re cheating your loved one of the time you’ve chosen to spend together. Your mate feels less important to you than the multitude you communicate with continuously. That’s a big ego hit," says Nelson. "The more you indulge in individual tweets (sent or received) while you’re together, the more you’re saying to your mate, 'You don’t matter to me.' That hurts."

   Nelson explains Twitter can play a positive role in a relationship too.

   Twitter is a great romance enhancer. "There’s nothing sexier than getting an 'I’m hot for you--can’t wait to see you tonight' tweet (when it’s marked private and sent just to your sweetheart)," says Nelson. "There is no limit to the romantic messages you can zip off. From playful to serious, it’s a fantastic way to keep the romance between you sizzling."

   Tweeting just for him. "Share some tweets just with your mate," suggests Nelson. "Let that be your private channel of communicating whatever crosses your mind. Now, instead of being left outside of the loop, treated as 'less than,' your sweetie is privileged, important and gets to share portions of you that no one else does. That feels good."