The Terribly Wonderful Good Kids

March 5, 2015 - PRLog -- My wife (Chantea) and I (James Goetz) were sitting recently at an out of the way coffee shop. There were quite a few couples, there, as well as a few children (with their parents of course)

While people watching (an interesting hobby), Chantea and (James Goetz New Jersey) observe interesting traits amongst the people. There were interactions among them making sure they had their own beverage (typically hot cocoa or an organic juice). They were visualized as hugging and kissing their children. The kids were extremely well behaved and truly looked happy and content.

On the flip side of this observation Chantey and I (James Goetz, New Jersey), visualized kids being boisterous, rowdy, and unruly. In each and every instance of this, parents were so entwined in conversations with one another or utilizing their cell phones. In all instances, the kids were either making an attempt to entertain themselves, or desperately attempting to secure attention. One incident that shocked us both was when a little boy, probably around five or six years of age, began to climb up his mother's lap in an attempt to give her with a loving kiss. She smacked him and yelled at him to stop it!

This young boy had such a look of hurt and pain in his eyes. The mother turned and continued to talk with the guy she was with, allowing the boy to begin running rampant in the coffee shop, disrupting the other patrons.

This observation got Chantea and I (James Goetz New Jersey) talking (and headed for the door).

Not tooting our horn, but some friend once asked us what was in the water in our house, as our extremely well behaved children appeared to have smiles permanently

affixed to their faces.

So what then is the secret? What secret do Chantea and I (James Goetz new Jersey) along with other parents implement to bring our maximum awareness in children?

The kids are the most important priority in life. The kids…. I think you; the reader is getting to get it. When parents put life (which is often filled with menial tasks that can wait or not even be done, social media, if your thousand so called friends were that important, they would be active in your lifer on a daily basis. By putting the children first, they have the ability to feel loved, cared for, and that they are an important parent of your life. Remember, you the parent, are the most important aspect of their life.

It is okay to hug and shower your kids with hugs and kisses. Affection calms them and releases important hormones that create a bonding experience.

It is also okay to talk with them as an adult and not baby them.  Instead of singing, the Wheels On the Bus,

(James Goetz New Jersey)  I made up and taught a song to

our daughter teaching her the names of all twelve cranial nerves.  She seems to get a feeling of satisfaction in bonding with daddy and learning something tough. Plus, (she has even said) she feels that I (James Goetz New Jersey) have confidence in her being smart enough to teach her doctor stuff.

Our (Chantea and James Goetz) kids are extremely happy, smiling, loving kids. We are truly blessed.

Our son will call for his big sister from his crib (unfortunately this can occur at all hours of the day to play. She will get him out of his crib in the morning or often his afternoon nap and even change his diaper (nom-boo, of course). They are inseparable and the best of friends. The is truly warming to the heart.

Many parents, especially dads, are not active in their child’s life. I do not understand why I am one of the very few dads to go through the Saturday morning birthday circuits with our daughter The moms take their kids to birthday parties while the dads stay home.

I do at times stay at home of do house stuff, but more often than not, I am there because I want to be. I appreciate

the extra time with our daughter. The moments hanging to while driving, listening to classical music or belting out the lyrics to spice jump your life by the Spice Girls, talking about issues that maybe bothering her, playing silly games or just enjoying one another’s company in silence is truly priceless.  Going to the grocery store to pickup an ingredient or two for dinner or to get milk, and eggs is easier and quicker to go alone. Bringing one or two children along can and does take longer. So what though?

Each visit to the supermarket or any store is an opportunity

enjoying one another’s company in silence is truly priceless.  Going to the grocery store to pick up an ingredient or two for dinner or to get milk, and eggs is easier and quicker to go alone. Bringing one or two children along can and does take longer. So what though?

Each visit to the supermarket or any store is an opportunity

for new smiles and wonderful memories. What is the big rush? Will an extra ten or twenty minutes affect our day in a negative manner that much? Simply closing my eyes of thinking about it, I hear screams of laughter while I ran through the aisles of the grocery store, pushing the shopping cart (pretty fast) with the kids in it, making “Vroom” sounds and “rrrt” (screeching (sounds as we turn the corners. That is usually followed by an “again daddy”!There is a difference between an adult with attentive parents and one who had parents who were distant.

How do you want your children to grow up? I for one want our children to be truly happy, feel safe and secure, and know unconditional love.

James Goetz

New Jersey