Technique 1 - Do A Disappearing Act
No, I'm not talking about donning a cape and doing a Harry Houdini, as fun as that sounds. What you have to do after your breakup is to disappear from your ex's line of sight for a while. This may prove extremely difficult if you have to see your ex every day at work, college or school, but the less that you can see and interact with them, the better for your chances of getting your ex back quickly.
The psychology behind this is powerful. You see, after your breakup your ex counted on the fact that they would still see you and hear from you often. Maybe you agreed to be friends after your breakup, so your ex thought that they would still have you in their lives, albeit not in the same way as they did previously. They knew that they could wean themselves off you gradually and wouldn't have to deal with a complete cut of you out of their lives.
You have to give them what they didn't expect so that they are forced to think about the breakup through fresh eyes and really work out what you mean to them. When you take yourself completely out of the picture your ex will wonder what has happened. They will be looking out for you, expecting texts, emails, Facebook pokes from you. When they don't materialise your ex will start to question what has happened to you. They will be anxious that you are alright, worried that you have already moved on and curious about what you are up to. This will inevitably make them reach out and make contact with you themselves.
You will start to see a dramatic change in the way that your ex acts towards you. They will start making more of an effort and taking a proactive interest in your life because they are afraid of losing you completely. Another important element of disappearing is that it will make your ex start to miss you - something that they didn't expect to happen. When your ex begins to pine for you they will start to contact you more and try to be nice to you again. Remember, that missing you is a huge part of getting your ex to want you back. They more you can disappear and stick at it, the faster you will get a reaction from your ex and the quicker they will want you back.
Technique 2 - Act Maturely And Keep Busy
The busier and more preoccupied you are after the breakup, the less chance you have to saying and doing anything that will ruin your chances of getting your ex back. Believe it or not, your ex will be paying close attention to what you get up to in the days and weeks after the break up. They will be interested in knowing how you are coping and if you have moved on from them. This is why you have to be careful with what you do and say on both social media and to your friends. Your ex will be checking your wall looking for titbits of news about your single life. Don't give them the satisfaction of knowing anything about you.
If you act like a mature adult and take the breakup in your stride, your ex will not expect it either. This tactic of reverse psychology will make them wonder why you are coping so well when they aren't. They may start to panic that you are over them already and be forced to act so as not to lose you for good.
Maintaining a calm and collected demeanour will always look attractive to your ex. If you are wanting to get them back as quickly as possible then you will need to do everything in your power to bite your lip when you are hurt. Behaving childishly, trying to hurt your ex by saying nasty things, or generally trying to provoke a reaction from them will only end badly. You will undo all of the progress that you have made up until this point with one wrong word.
Remember that you want your ex to approach you and make an effort. They will be much less likely to do so if you are casting them scornful glances, acting like a child or being needy. They will not want to enter into a conversation with you about the breakup or go over old ground all the time. You need to show them that you have accepted the breakup and that you are grown up enough to move on. Your ex will want to spend more time with you as a result and start to question their decision to breakup.
You should also aim to keep as busy as possible with new hobbies or socialising. Once your ex sees that you are getting on with your life they will find you more attractive. Being interesting is one of the main things that probably attracted your ex to you in the first place. They think that they know all that there is to know about you and that you are predictable. Surprise them by taking up a new hobby or pursuing a goal that you have put on the backburner. This go get em attitude is admirable and desirable. Your ex will start to question if they misjudged you and a whole different and intriguing side to your character will open up to them. Clever eh?
Your Next Steps - Speed Up The Process Of Getting Your Ex Back
You have now learned some of the things that you should be doing to speed up the process of getting your ex back. There is much more that you need to be aware of as well as other strategies that will increase your chances of getting them back and make it happen faster. Learn how it is done by clicking the link below.
Avoid These Breakup Mistakes
As well as knowing what to do, you need to know what NOT to do with your ex. There are certain types of behaviours that will push them away and make them see you in a negative way, this isn't what you want to happen. Learn what you should be avoiding by clicking the link below.
Want To Know How Your Ex Feels About You?
There are certain ways to tell if your ex still has feelings for you. Instead of asking them straight out, you have to do some detective works and learn to recognise specific signs. This will enable you to know where you stand with your ex. Click the link below to find out what these signs are.